gf keeps roping me back, cant see to find my feelings for her anymore.

[oldskool83]

The last few days I told the gf we were done. I logged onto facebook and noticed she went to a bar with a her girl friend. She didnt tell me she was going to hang with her friend and not go out. (she never goes out because last time she did she threw up all over and that was my last straw with going out to a bar with her or with anyone)

well i saw the dumb bar pics, called her up said Fck you, your done.

We had a spat for a few hours, she came to see me. pleeded with me. I told her she a lieing peice of shit and need to woman up if she does not wanna drink she needs to find friends who do not do anything more then drink. Its drama, causes problems, i dont need it.

Well that was saterday, today it wensday she wants to come see me again. I kinda feel burned out, i don't really feel i want to do things with her. I know i am 28 and its not getting easier to be with people, but i feel i should be happy if i have a gf and would want to do things with her. I feel more mechanical, i know how to be alone, i do like the company and that but i struggle to find feelings towards this girl and i am not sure why. Others in past i always got feelings for, i dont even want to hold her hand and have never in 3 months.

I wonder if i am letting somthing continue out of fear or not finding sum1 else i am happier with or if i am only holding onto the fact i love what the girl is about and how loyal she is, besides that its way to early to even say i am in love.

she has pushed a little on some things suck as moving in with my with her child, only after knowing her a month. I stood firm and stand firm thinking i dont need to ruin some little kids life if it dont work out. No on needs to move intogether i feel for a year...if it lasts a year then move in.

i am not sure what my deal is, ive seen a trend women who are very into me i am not very into them, ones i am very into seem to not be much into me over time.

and for the record about the bar thing lieing crap, i told her she wouldnt like it if i said i was goning to go do somthing and did somthing else and then posted dumb pics on facebook on my real actions. guess that just didnt fly with me, i dont like giving 2nd and 3rd chances. Id rather cut my losses and gain peace of mind.

maybe sum1 has some advice for me.

[JazzyJason]

I dont mean to point out the obvious here partner but:

The last few days I told the gf we were done. I logged onto facebook and noticed she went to a bar with a her girl friend. She didnt tell me she was going to hang with her friend and not go out. (she never goes out because last time she did she threw up all over and that was my last straw with going out to a bar with her or with anyone)

If you told "the" gf you were done, why would she need to ask/tell/inform you where she is going and with who? Since you broke up with her she doesn't owe you squat.

well i saw the dumb bar pics, called her up said Fck you, your done.

You called your ex up and told her "F*ck You your done?" because she went out with a friend after you dumped her? Are you serious? Apart from the fact that i would have laughed at you right on the phone, thats just something you dont do as a dude, dude!

I told her she a lieing peice of shit and need to woman up if she does not wanna drink she needs to find friends who do not do anything more then drink. Its drama, causes problems, i dont need it.

Well i sure hope you feel like a man after your mature behavior because you sure as hell aren't acting like one. Whats the problem, she went out for a drink witha friend after you dumped her and you are calling her names?! Pathetic!

i am not sure what my deal is, ive seen a trend women who are very into me i am not very into them

I could write a book on what the deal is with guys like you from a psychological point of view, but i dont think that will help in your particular case. Matter of fact i cant believe i took the time to go through this post but what the hell i'm bored. Your deal is probably that you are insecure and need to compensate for that by pretending to be the "alpha male". You will never be able to cut your losses because you feel insulted and dis-honored just by the fact that your EX went out to a bar with a friend after you dumped her. Stop taking yourself so seriously and try to build a foundation for a stable relationship without abuse in the future. Nobody is gods gift to the world my man, that includes you.

[oldskool83]

you read all wrong. we were still together when she did this, she never told me she went to a bar( just she was going to her friends house. after i found out i dumped her on the spot cuz i felt she lied and it was shady activity.

so now all your comments will make no sence.

[JazzyJason]

you read all wrong. we were still together when she did this, she never told me she went to a bar( just she was going to her friends house. after i found out i dumped her on the spot cuz i felt she lied and it was shady activity.

so now all your comments will make no sence.

Regardless, still no reason for the name-calling. So what if she went to a bar, maybe she isnt having any fun with you.

[thiudiskr]

It all ended after you said, "we're done." Don't bother.

[oldskool83]

well shes still wanting to be with me, saying she will change and do anything to be with me, shes called me 10 times yesterday, what sucks more is now she lost her job do to her performace or lack there of. ive told me i want time off, shes begging to see me. Im just not jumping at this chance and trying to walk away.