Hi folks,
Need some advice, please, please !
Background:
Me - 40 yrs old, divorced, 1 young son
Girlfriend - 39 yrs old, divorced, 2 young sons.
Dating a year, living all under one roof for 5 months.
I agree and confirm I am definitely clingy sometimes, but working hard to fight it.
However, not jealous....just stingy with time, since between our kids, we only have a few hours of alone time per week.
Recently, my girlfriend started taking a Zumba class two nights per week, and I keep reminding her how little alone time we have as it is.
In reminding her, I was pretty persistent, to the point of a chill between us.
People say I should go out w/my friends...I have many opportunities to go out with my friends, but what is stopping me?
After I got on my soapbox about "quality time", #1, wouldn't that make me a hypocrite? and #2, I only fear she will increase her dance class schedule, and thus, cut down on more of "us" time.
Even before I met her, I grew out of the "out" lifestyle (I'm 40), so doing it would be more spite than anything, and that is not a healthy action by me.
Now, here is my question:
About a month ago, I was really upset when she changed her Facebook Profile back to her two kids from a picture of us. In spite, I changed my status to single, and she put us back up.
Well, guess what?
Yesterday, she changed it to her kids again.
What did I do?
I commented and said it was a great pic on her wall.
At night, she even asked me if I saw the pic of her kids and that she put it up because her 10yr old asked her to.
You see, guys...I just received an unsolicited E-mail from my sister checking on me since she knows I am having a hard time with finances...and I swear that I didn't mention the FB profile pic my girlfriend changed (I'd only be harming myself by lying). In her E-mail, she said, "She put the boys up in her profile pic which is ok when your married but there is almost a subliminal message"
I mean, I am trying to focus on myself, but seeing that E-mail without even asking for it just makes me really wonder about what she wrote.
Do I sit back and simmer?
Do I change MY profile pic to my son, as almost 48 hours passed?
Help !!!