Alright, I clicked. I confess I couldn't get through your whole post, but Lysa's post was nice, if unoriginal. I think I read someplace else recently that the 'secret to women' was that they 'want to feel chosen'. Its just another (shorter--good for men) way of saying the same thing. But I suppose those messages are good to repeat. Like to see the complement for Wives from Husbands.
Anyway, welcome to the forum Dave.
Second thoughts can generally be amended with judicious action; injudicious actions can seldom be recovered with second thoughts.
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