What am i feeling? Do i like him in that way or not?

[icve]

This guy, Mike, confessed to me, but i turned him down because i wasn't ready for a relationship. Now its been a year and he has had girlfriends in the meantime, and bla bla. We have always kept contact in the weekends, playing games and such together over Skype. Now, a few days ago, i went to his 20th birthday. We had a lot of fun, and such. And i was to sleep there. We slept in the same room, but not in the same bed, of course. When we were about to go to sleep, he told me that he still liked me, and he had broken up with his girlfriends before because of that he still liked me. I am ready to be in a relationship now, actually, I'm hungering for some love! I do think a lot about him, and miss him, but whenever i am with him, i don't feel like myself, cant be the laughing person i am with my other friends. And it makes me uncomfortable. Besides that, i don't know if I'm attracted to him or not. He is permanently in crutches, and has very stiff movements. He also works out a lot, so he can walk longer on the crutches and not tire so easily. Maybe its my instincts, i thought? That i I miss him so much when I'm not with him, but when i am and he is a little over affectionate for my taste, i find myself wanting to push him away. Don't know if its because i don't like it, or don't want him to get even sadder IF i refuse to date him. When he told me he liked me, i didn't answer back, cause i didn't know what to answer yet.


Just a few hours ago he wrote that he missed me so much everyday, and i made his birthday the best.
I think its risky to write an answer to that, When i dont know my own feelings yet. Isn't there a way to make a "Neutral" answer? And it was on facebook, so i dont want to write my answer to his confession as a comment for everyone to see.

I think its high time i figure out my feelings, but i don't even know myself very well.

[smackie9]

You are emotionally attached (which happens to a lot of girls), but not sexually attracted to him, that is what is going on here. If you were into him, you wouldn't be here asking all these questions. In fact there would be no doubt how you feel about him if you were. Does that make things clearer?

Sorry but the best thing is to break the news to him on how you feel. Avoiding him will only confuse him and not let him get over you as he should.

[eva43]

Before you decide what to do, think about it first. Can you picture out yourself without him or with other girls? Talk to him about what you really feel, what you don't like about him and stuff... Maybe you both can work things out.