how do I make my ex gf want me?

[prince10]

My ex loves me, cares for me, but we haven't been together for a while and she keeps saying she wants to want me? How do I make this happen?

Thanks!

[Wakeup]

by ignoring her and by stop being her source of attention whoredom. You feed her emotional immaturity by catering to her need for attention while she gives you nothing but unsubstantiated words. Ignore her for a while and see if she steps up her interest. If she doesn't? Well, then you can't make someone want you. Especially someone who had you already and gave you up.

[prince10]

Ok, but when you say ignore I'm assuming you mean not to initiate contact, but what if she contacts me? She has already a few times and I've been pleasant and nonchalant, but I don't engage in convo, is that fine?

[Wakeup]

Don't be so readily available to someone who didn't want you in the first place. You put far too much value on the crumbs that she gives you.

Don't contact her at all and if she contacts you then ask her what it is she wants from you if it's not to be her boyfriend. Then be quiet and let her answer. If her answer is anything less than "I want you to be my boyfriend" then tell her you're not settling to be demoted to "friend" from boyfriend and wish her well in her life or anyother women's life for that matter and wish her goodbye.

There is no point letting her have her cake (emotional taponing you) while she eats it too (being perfectly single to give herself to someone else as soon as he happens to come along).

You're better than waiting like an emasculated girlfriend with dangling bits while she uses you for attention. Seriously!

[prince10]

Ya you are 100% right! The thing is that since she had feelings for someone else, she can't just flip a switch and have feelings for me, it has to happen naturally doesn't it? I am not initiating anything right now at all and when she does hit me up by email/fb I either wait till the next day to respond or for several hours. I don't engage in convo with her at all, but I am being pleasant. Don't I need to respark something though with her in the future? So that she can be attracted to me once again? By giving an ultimatum, I'm not sure how much that works.

[Wakeup]

If it doesn't work then you're saving yourself months of letting her string you along while she stays with the other guy. You need to value yourself more and not settle for wenches who after six months don't want you as their boyfriend but will keep you around for the attention. She's not even a friend... why treat her with anything else but indifference? Pay less attention to her unsubstantiated words like "she wants to want me" that's just plain bullshit telling you what you want to hear crap. Nothing less, nothing more.

Sorry dude but you do well to not even respond to her because when you do, she' feeds you crap and stagnates you from moving on.