Originally Posted by
Amber2011
Sounds to me like YOU'VE got some major insecurities to deal with yourself. Threatening to wreak havoc in your wife's workplace is just plain childish. Same goes for spying on her. Sorry, but I think that is disgraceful. If somebody did that to me I'd be furious. You know you have a problem with your marriage so the obvious thing would be to sit down and talk about it rationally. It takes two to make a marriage and two to break it. Perhaps you could try to put some romance back? Many people who have been married for a long time take each other for granted and end up drifting apart. I don't buy the menopause theory much either - I'm at that age and haven't really been bothered too much by it but if your wife is having a bad time with it (and many women do - I'm probably one of the lucky ones), then your doctor can help.
Voice of reason. ^^
If my spouse was spying on me and threatening to cause trouble at my place of employment, I can't imagine how I'd be motivated to stay married. It sounds to me like you BOTH have issues, and I doubt they all surfaced with the possibility of menopause.
Get some therapy. BOTH of you.
Relax... I'll need some information first. Just the basic facts - can you show me where it hurts?