Sorry to hear that Bo. Hang in there (:
This sounds very regret
"Sometimes the best way to throw a punch is to take a step back"~Morgan freeman
"Sometimes the best way to throw a punch is to take a step back"~Morgan freeman
Thanks i've thought about that, I just don't know. I think i'll see things differently down the road but I'm trying to get my head wrapped around all this. I'm definitely not the same person I was before, I'm not sure if that's good or bad.
I don't know how I will ever trust someone again...EVER.
"Sometimes the best way to throw a punch is to take a step back"~Morgan freeman
I feel like someone died. It's been about five days and I'm miserable.
"Sometimes the best way to throw a punch is to take a step back"~Morgan freeman
Its an expansion of Vash's point, but I think this captures the problem beautifully. When people say they feel lonely in a relationship, I think this^ is what they refer to. Partners/spouses should "always have your back" so to speak. When that's not there, or they can't for whatever reason (lack of trust, disagreement in values) then its time to consider moving on.
Second thoughts can generally be amended with judicious action; injudicious actions can seldom be recovered with second thoughts.
--Cyteen by C.J.Cherryh
The hurt isn't from him tho. Its b/c you finally realize he isn't the guy who could be the one who'd "have your back". Its the failed expectation. As soon as you realize that you are now free to go out and find that person who *will* be a real partner to you (and you to him), the hurt will be much less. You'll see that both of you are actually better off. Remember, his behaviour was preventing *you* from being a good partner for him also. Its doubly disappointing when you think of it like that, and therefore doubly good that you two are finally moving on.
Second thoughts can generally be amended with judicious action; injudicious actions can seldom be recovered with second thoughts.
--Cyteen by C.J.Cherryh
Don't most all abusers say such things? Words mean nothing when they are'nt backed up with action. Don't even consider taking him back. He needs therapy before he'll be ready to be anyone's decent partner. If you feel yourself weakening and wanting to believe his words that have no substance then consider getting your own bit of councelling to help you be stronger in your conviction of not ever wanting anything to do with him again.
This is the perfect opportunity for you to make yourself your number one priority. You now can concentrate on making you the best you that you can be without worrying about all the stuff that made you angst ridden and insecure during your time with him. In time (and what you do with your time) you'll look back and be glad you're free of him.
Last edited by Wakeup; 30-04-12 at 12:50 AM.