When you are in the no contact phase

[prince10]

I've been in the no contact phase with my ex for about almost 2 weeks, she has initiated contact with me a few times, but I've been standoffish and pleasant at the same time, so I can appear as the "cool detached ex" that is doing well. She has told me she missed me and I'm on her mind and then on another time she was just asking how my weekend is going. The reason we aren't together is due to a combination of reasons.

Here is my question: In trying to get my ex back, do I need to reinitiate contact again at some point to respark the attraction? Or do I just wait for her to say "lets talk, lets hang out, lets be together" I think I need to somehow make her want me again and that happens with attraction.

What is the best approach??

Thank you!

[Boisdevie]

The reason we aren't together is due to a combination of reasons.

Deal with these reasons and you just MIGHT get back together again. But don't hold your breath. And No Contact is not some bullshit strategy to get someone back. I initiate No Contact when I want nothing to do with somebody else.

[smackie9]

Ya so just lay it all out to her. Ask her if she has time to talk. Ask her what she wants, and let her know what you want. If she cannot provide any direct answer to you, then tell her to never contact you again and that enough is enough....this has to end so you can move on. Doing this will cut out all the bull sh it, and not waste anymore of your time. Grow some balls because you will not get anywhere farkin around with this no contact crap.

[Bush1]

Don't understand what you are saying

[lexsgirl23]

the first step in trying to get her back, is seeing what she wants first.
you don't want to freak her out, and push her away even more.
and if you really, really care about this girl, if she doesn't want a relationship with you because of the combination of reasons why you're not together in the first place, then talk to her about being friends! it's better to have her in your life then out, right?

[Wakeup]

the first step in trying to get her back, is seeing what she wants first.
you don't want to freak her out, and push her away even more.
and if you really, really care about this girl, if she doesn't want a relationship with you because of the combination of reasons why you're not together in the first place, then talk to her about being friends! it's better to have her in your life then out, right?

BWEEP, BWEEP, BWEEP... Codependent, enabler alert. ... BWEEP, BWEEP, BWEEP

[Bella1]

Yes, I quite agree to your point of view.

[Dry Spell1]

so excited!