I have a situation I really don’t know how to handle anymore.
Been with this guy since June, we moved in together in December. Found out I was pregnant at the end of December. Everything between us is really quite perfect. He has two best friends (K & R), both of which are girls. I don’t care that he has really close female friends but I do have a major issue with K. My BF and K were FWB a couple of years ago, which ended because they found out they are somewhat distantly related. So then they just became friends. I knew about it, I let it go and it really never bothered me until the day we told her we were pregnant. It was New Year’s Eve and we were over at R’s and they were all drinking. K showed up and we told all of them about the baby. K smacked my BF really hard multiple times. He didn’t say or do anything and she left about 20 min later. I was sitting right next to him and after she left they were texting each other. He was drunk at this point and I clearly saw him erasing some of the text messages after they were sent. I confronted him about it and he acted like I was being crazy. The next morning I went through his phone and looked at the text messages. They didn’t make sense and I knew it was because he had deleted some of them. So I counted them up and pulled up our phone records and saw that he had deleted around 15 texts. I confronted him and he lied again. Then I told him I had the text list pulled up, knew he was lying and told him to leave. We worked it out and he assured me that the texts he deleted were him telling her about how scared he was to be having another baby and things along those lines. He said he deleted them because he didn’t want me to get upset seeing that kind of conversation.
We worked it out and things slowly got back to where we were prior to that night. The only reason though that we were able to was because K had completely started treating him like shit. He would invite her out and she always declined. He would try talking to her and she would respond with one word answers. He was emailing her every so often telling her that she would always be his best friend, that he missed her, etc. Eventually I got angry and told him that I was sick of him chasing after her trying to kiss her ass and make her feel better. They got into a fight over text and she told him that she didn’t even like me. He told me he was done with her because she never put in the effort he was. They hadn’t seen each other from New Year’s Eve up until last week and they had barely spoken. I was starting to feel really good and thinking that she may be out of our lives. Last week she texted him saying she wanted to hang out with him. He didn’t even think twice and was ready to jump out the door to go see her. That made me so angry!!! Who would do that? After your “best friend” has been treating you like shit for months and then the second they show up you go running? I certainly wouldn’t! He insisted for me to go with him and told me that he wasn’t going to have a fun night that he wanted to tell her off for everything that had been going on. Yeah ok…….. I refused to go and told him that if that is what he wanted it would be best if I wasn’t there so they could talk freely.
So he went out with her and now they are “best friends!” again. I can’t handle this. I don’t know what to do. I am not a controlling type of girlfriend. I have no problem with him going out, or having female friends. I just have a MAJOR problem with HER. I don’t trust them. Now that they are talking again I find myself going through his phone reading their text messages and checking our phone records again to make sure he isn’t deleting any. I blew up on him the other day because for over an hour all I heard was her stupid text tone going off on his phone and he was glued to it. I told him to just call her already so they could get the conversation over with and I went and cried. He’s right back to texting her that she is an amazing person and his best friend for life and then telling his other friend R that, yay, they are all back together again. I hate this girl. I hate not trusting my BF, I hate going through his phone. I hate living like this. I’m 6 months pregnant and I want nothing more than for her to be gone forever from our lives. I feel like I can’t tell him to cut contact with her. I’ve told him how I feel, I’ve told him all of this. He knows I go through his phone, I’m not sneaky about it. He told me that he will do whatever he has to to show me I can trust him and he will just try to be there and comfort me when I start feeling insecure about the two of them. But it isn’t going away. I’m crying all the time because of them. I don’t know what to do. I certainly don’t want her to show up at the hospital when I give birth but he is pretty much saying she will so that’s that.
Sorry this is so long but thanks for anyone who read all of that and has any advice.