Confused of what other people said :(

[obsessive_lover]

First of all my friends, this is my first post and my grammer is not good enough. Sorry for my mistakes for that reason. I hope I'll explain the issue clearly.

I'm 23 and I've a relationship for 2 years. Everything was beautiful especially the first months and I've absolutely fallen in love with her, everything about her was sooo important for me and I was very sensitive of what she thinks about me and still I am, still even if there is a little problem or a disagreement between us, I become very anxious, upset, terrible.. She is so sweet and adorable, and I like being with her. I love to spend all of my time with her and I'm so serious about our relationship, I would like to marry such a soulmate of mine. And we have always handled a lot of difficulties between us, we solved all of them. We spent even a few months away and never ever decided breaking up. I'm pretty sure that she loves me a lot and I think more than I do love her. Also i guess, she will never want to break up with me as long as I don't cheat her or don't behave her like an asshole (but we are always so kind to each other, and I have never cheated on her and also we've never even said that we want to break up to each other) This is the brief of our relationship. But the things are not easy as you know, honestly as I'm writing these topic; it's a shame that I again understand how she is important to me and how could I be that much confused sometimes..

The problem is that; I felt since the first time my parents and one of my friend were like "ehm yes she is pretty" but nothing more and my mother said she is of course beautiful but -according to her- I'm more attractive then her. Ok these words also didn't hurt me. But my sister didn't say a word when I expected her opinion a few times and she was like 'hmm I won't say anything, its your decision' and that obviously means that she's not beautiful at all. That was also OK but last time my parents told me exactly that words: "She is sweet nice... but I'm afraid that you are much more better that her, she's lusterless next to you, that's the truth (I meaned unattractive)" I couldn't say anything but it really hurt me. Sometimes I feel maybe she's not the one and after I think it's nonsense and it goes on like this. My opinion changes like that from day to day because of the things that other people say or think or that I supposed they think.

I know that you'll say "Just don't pay attention and do what you want" but as long as I hear or feel these, I feel so upset and can't stop thinking if she is appropriate for me or not! I'm aslo a kind of obsessive person who is sensitive to everything and I have a lack of self confidence and I'm shy. Do you think it is because of my personality? Have you ever felt like me and what is your experience about it? What should I do? But please don't judge me and don't write angry words because I'm so upset and ashamed of what i think. (Note: I've always been angry when I heard that words of 'I'm so complicated' but now I understand that I was so immature to think that love was such an easy case.. It's not like math Sorry for the long writing.. Thanks for reading..

[BackUpOrGetStng]

If everything you said in your first paragraph is true, then you need to shut the **** up and enjoy your relationship. If she makes you happy, shut the **** up, and be happy. Stop inviting other people's opinions.

[smackie9]

Ya I agree.....stop being so damn insecure.

[obsessive_lover]

Guys thank you for reading and for your answers, i think the same things. But what other people said made me think about it and sometimes I really try to understand the truth.. I feel like everyone around me thinks I've got a very unattractive gf for me and I really wish, I could have known the real thoughts of them

[searock]

Attractiveness is entirely subjective. She is attractive TO YOU: that's what counts. Who cares what your family/friends think, she's *your* girlfriend, not theirs. Stop having these pointless and destructive thoughts.