Hi there, I recently broke up with my partner of a yr and ten months. its been almost 3 months since we split up and he is still trying to get me back, he loves me to peices and is a really good guy but the reason i broke it off was to really make him see he needed help. In a previous relationship i had been made to feel worthless and minipulated into doing stuff i never should of done i wasnt aloud to see my friends or nothing i had also been hit threatened etc you name it it happened. Anyway back to my current break up reason was he has a bad temper will flip over silliest of things he threatened me one day and it really et away at me i shut him out and just put up this massive wall cause i didnt want to get hurt again (im seeing my own counsellor), anyway after he threatened me he agreed to get help things were good until his counsellor said she had seen him enough and he'd be ok he then threatened me again over silly crap, we wouldnt stop arguing after that and i just couldnt take it anymore so i told him to move out, about 3 wks after we split after abusive texts telling me to kill myself etc he finally realised he had a problem and went back and got more help he is still seeing his counsellor now, however if he doesnt like what im doing he looses it if i dont text back he looses it,he will just show up at my house, he put a hole in my wall the other day, recently he told me to hang myself and so my mate texted him and he texted back saying i hope shes hanging from the shed, he will then text next day saying how much he loves me etc. its really messing with my head. Last weekend a guy from his hometown was burnt and i read in paper a 25 yr old guy had been burnt and i freaked out i thought it was him so i texted him and he went nuts at me for texting him cause i had told him to leave me alone i just cant seem to win even though we not together i still care. If he hadnt had such a temper we'd prob be married. i just dont know what to do my family my friends all tell me to run and i want to run but there's just this little something stopping me, I dont love him like i used to he constantly pisses me off like last night throwing my past in my fast going at least i didnt do this and that when i beat myself up everyday for what i did. Please help me im 26 i have been out of home since i was 16 i love my friends and family but he just doesnt like me spending time with anyone other than him if i do something he doesnt like its all on, we arent together but i do miss him and i do care but im over all this crap and i really dont know what to do anymore, please please give me some much needed advice. i want to settle down have a family etc but i just dont know where im going or who i am anymore PLease HElp me what would you do i really dont think he is ever going to change