What should i do?

[jan007]

I'm unclear if he's been doing this while they've been together. If so, Jan, then you should dump him.

Well looks like i'm gonna have to make a decision based on the evidence i have, i will never know the truth and he's not going to own up to something like this. I am very upset, if i stay with him will i always doubt him and have further trust issues and if i let him go i will always wonder if he was telling the truth and i have let go of someone who i loved dearly.

[IndiReloaded]

Loving someone and being compatible with them are very different things, Jan. The 'love' part comes from you and says you are a good person. It has nothing to do with how good the two of you are together. Dysfunctional couples who divorce often say they love each other. Doesn't make those atrocious marriages any better. I would move on if I were you.

As for ever knowing the truth: that's the paradox. If he was the kind of person who could be honest with you, then you wouldn't be having this problem in the first place. Sometimes, all you can do is close your mind to 'what might have been' and move on. Good luck, Jan.