Okay so a bit of context:
So apparently I'm decently attractive. I've been told that I am, however I constantly second guess myself, and have no idea to what degree. Anyway I havn't
had many female companions, and 0 girlfriends. I've hooked up with 3 girls. They initiated and I found none of them attractive. I used to be okay socially, but
lately I've felt a bit reclusive and find being out in public gives me anxiety to different degrees. Also I find if a girl is playfully flirting with me and I have no
interest in her, I usually tease them a bit (not flirting, but like poking harmless fun at them, some might equate this to non-intentional 'negging'), which makes
them like me more. However when I actually like a girl or care what she thinks, I get heaps nervous and can't think straight. I've never asked a girl out, been on one sort of date, and prefer talking to a girl when I don't feel im being watched or judged by others. I basically rely on the unlikely event that the girl will do all the courting, and I can just disguise my shyness as disinterest or introversion, or just that I'm a quiet guy (I actually used to be outgoing and stuff).
So yeah I was wondering, if I see a girl checking me out, what do I do if I also find her attractive.
issues:
- Some times i've tried to flirt, and then the girl starts giving me signs she's not interested (not sure if she's playing hard to get or not?)
- I am reluctant to be very forward, because I don't know anything about her. (ie. She is attractive but could be incompatible as far as desires in a
relationship)- When and where are the appropriate contexts to make a move? (ie. public transport? if she's alone or with friends?)
- How do I go about talking to a cute girl in my class at uni? Right now I am hoping for an opportunity that feels natural, like if we're sitting together or
something (unlikely, everyone has kind of settled into their little cliques and spots in the room)
And yeah just some general tips on how you should act when you know an attractive girl is attracted to you, but havn't met or got to know each other
properly. And yeah, I get how much of a pussy I sound in this post.