How do I get a girlfriend back after being dumped for clinginess.

[nichhamilton]

I was dumped for being too clingy 2 days ago. she said she wants to be friends and we can still hangout with friends and all that. I haven't spoken to her since then except seeing her out in public one night. But other then that I have had no contact with her.

[smackie9]

You can't change who you are over night. Not every relationship is going to work. Your personalities, and relationship expectations were not compatable. Not everyone want to be in constant physical contact with their partner, that is being smothering...space is a lot healthier for a relationship. You are just going to have learn from this experience and work on not focusing all your time with someone. Maybe you need to increase your social circle, find new hobbies, get into more activities like playing sports or take up guitar.

No contact is best, and be aloof. A counselor told me once that to be more desirable you need to make yourself less desirable, and that means being physically, emotionally less available to them.

[nichhamilton]

okay well I'm not a clingy person unless very sexual things are involved. if that happens then I become clingy. she even admitted that before we got sexually involved i wasn't that clingy.

[BackUpOrGetStng]

Continue no contact. That's the best way to show that you're not clingy.

[Cerby]

Are you also a bit jealous/insecure?

[smackie9]

okay well I'm not a clingy person unless very sexual things are involved. if that happens then I become clingy. she even admitted that before we got sexually involved i wasn't that clingy.

Well no most are not clingy before hand, but when things get to the physical level of course you become more emotionally attached...that is the normal progression when it does get sexual. What you are not seeing here is that she doesn't feel the same way emotionally as you do. She is pretty much saying she isn't that into you or possibly the sex isn't that good in her eyes. BTW don't buy the "lets be friends" crap....that's just a way to let you down easy.

You don't want someone back if they don't want you.....time to change your perspective on this.