what does this mean?

[heartach]

What does it mean if the man I have been married to has a friend that is a girl and he has had a crush on her I guess you can say. It is a weird attraction he has for her and they used to work together. He texts her basicaly everyday all through out the day and they will even go out and do something together. She is single. It does bother me and I. Have said it to him but he gets upset if I say it bothers me so I tell myself she is just one of the guys. Am I being stupid? Is this normal?

[bluesummer]

No, it's not normal. I bet he probably tells you you're being "jealous" and "insecure" when you bring it up too, right?

That's classic guilt. He knows he's wrong so he's going to project it back on you to justify it to himself and make you doubt your position on this. Don't doubt it for one second. If he has a closer relationship with this other girl than you, or even an equal amount of closeness, he's gone too far and has, as you've said, a 'crush'. Not appropriate in a marriage.

Tell him his behaviour is inappropriate and it's affecting your relationship. If he gets angry at you or tries to turn it back on you, you need to take the hard stance and leave. Seriously. My ex-husband cheated on me with a few women, he did this with every one of them.