Need some good advice

[Bluevelvet]

I met a guy a couple of years ago, it was an unusual situation. He was doing some major renovation work for the condominium complex that I lived in, we spoke, talked over the course of a couple of months and one night he dropped in after his working hours for a visit. However someone residing in the complex saw that he had came for a visit and contacted the company, told his boss and was reprimanded and has his job, because it was not considered appropriate that he socialize with any of the residents, even though it was on his time. I was so upset that someone would go to that degree just to cause grief. I was a single person, mid thirties really wanted to meet a nice guy, and he was really nice with me, and that was what happened. Needless to say I lost contact and was so upset about the entire thing that I left the area, picked up and moved, and I moved a distance. Recently I was able to locate him through a lost connection trail, it has taken me a while to find where he is, I have an address, I live over an hour away and I am quite sure he is still on his own. I guess my largest question is how do I go about making the contact, I cant just drop in, should I send a card in the mail, if anybody could give me advice it would be great!

[zaccarus]

Life is way to short to do nothing. I agree that you can't just turn up but are you holding too much of a flame for this guy? Send a card/letter and let him come to you. Do it today as tomorrow may never come....

[Bluevelvet]

Zaccarus, thanks for the advice. Probably because I had remained on my own for a few years, running into mainly married men wanting an affair, (which I would never do) and people I had run into that were single were just not a good match. This guy was exceptionally nice with me, I liked his mannerism all the way around. I am going to try the card thing, but am reluctant on putting my number down, if there is a female around, she would not be happy. I don't think that there is but you never know!

[Esther52]

Thanks for your post.

[zaccarus]

Bluevelvet, it sounds like you are a pretty smart person and know exactly what they want to do! I agree with the number thing so why not create a new email address which he could contact you on? Good luck with the future & feel free to PM me if you ever need to sound off!

[haxan]

I met a guy a couple of years ago. Needless to say I lost contact and was so upset about the entire thing that I left the area, picked up and moved, and I moved a distance.

Recently I was able to locate him through a lost connection trail, it has taken me a while to find where he is, I have an address, I live over an hour away and I am quite sure he is still on his own.

These two things seem odd to me. You were so upset that someone reported him to his Supv that 'you' left town? If he did nothing wrong and socialized on his own time, I'm sure he explained it properly to his boss and all was fine.

How are you quite sure he's still on his own? I don't know, you seem to know quite a bit. If you know all of this stuff already, just go knock on the guy's door and re-introduce yourself. That would probably be less intrusive than doing all of the background homework you've already done.

[Boisdevie]

Can I throw a spanner in the works? How can the OP know the guy is available? Is the OP a bit fixated on this guy? Sounds like he was nice to her, she was desperate and there was never anything apart from that. If I had a knock on the door I'd think the woman was a bit wierd.