Hi. I have been friends with this girl for more than 2 years. Then about 6 months ago I starting falling in love with her but was afraid it would ruin our friendship. But then about a month ago she tells me that she is very much in love with me and has been so for a long time! Oh sweet happyness! Yeah well...she was very afraid that it would ruin our friendship and had alot of doubts. But I persuaded her to give it a try.
The first couple of days went great and she even told her mother about me and referred to me as her "boyfriend"...but then this happened:
We were talking about the two of us when all of a sudden she said: "What is going to happen with the two of us when I get better again???" (This was while she was in a bad personal place having a depression). It kind of caught me off guad and I responded: "I certainly hope you are not just using me because you are feeling bad!??"...In retrospect I can see it was probably the stupidiest thing I could have said to her. I still don�t know what she meant by that question but at least I could have asked her what she meant instead of blurting out that crap. I haven�t given her an apology and now it�s a month ago.
Well on with the story. After this incident things started to go downhill quickly. She called me the next day and I sensed immediately that she was very aggressive towards me. She is very passive-agressive so she never confronts you if she is mad about something. Insted she punishes by being very bitchy, unpleasant withdrawing affection and s*it like that. And it goes on and on until you figure out what is going on and apologize. Very brutal! You have to be a go*damn mind reader with this girl. Anyway since this incident she has started calling me only every 2rd or 3rd day whereas before we talked for HOURS EVERY day. When she finally calls it is only for 10-15 mins and it is ALWAYS when she is sitting in the bus or if she is on her way home from fitness training. Just as soon as she is home she makes a point out of letting me know that now she DOES NOT have the time to chat anymore! (But it is ALWAYS her that call me up. And she stil texts me every day.)
She has also started saying weird things like: "My mom is asking me how I am proceeding with this and this guy"...and I�m like * * * ???...then she is going to some party and she said: "I know I�m going to do something stupid with this guy" and everytime one of these weird situations arises I�m like: "HEY WHAT ARE U SAYING???" and everytime she quickly excuses herself and says "No no forget it. you have nothing to worry about it." But what the hell??? Also I can see on her facebook that she is talking with alot of other guys. So it is obvious that the time she spent on me before (circa 3 hrs per day) is now being directed towards them. I even dreamt one night that she was talking 2 hrs with some random guy and the next day I got a confirmation by visiting her facebook. She is stunning to look at so there is literally dozens of guys ALWAYS waiting in the shadows to make their move.
Then this other day she said this: She owes me some money and she said "I don�t like owing FRIENDS money"...so what the hell??? Also she says that she isn�t ready to see me (we live far apart) yet. This makes sort of sense since she has been in a very bad place personally and is on her way up again but she is already making plans with her friends again and starting to go out just not any plans with me...hmm...She hasn�t yet told me directly that she doesn�t wan�t to be lovers but I sure feel like she is trying to say it indirectly. Also it is like she is trying to say that I�m not important in her life anymore. Now I�m just someone who can be used when she has to kill 15 mins in the bus. This change happened virtually from one day to the other after I said that stupid thing. She has been like this before but NEVER for so long (4 weeks). Of course all the other times this has happened I have given her an apology but I haven�t this time. This is because sometimes an apology has made her even worse and ruined things further. So I feel like I�m damned if I do and damned if I don�t. This really is the most miserable place to be emtionally because I miss the intimacy and sharing we did before. She seems distant and cold now.
Is this relationship over and is she just trying to make me break up?? Does she only wan�t to be friends again? Or what the h*ll is going on??