my bf and i will have been together for about a year. he's wonderful. he's loving, passionate, affectionate, and we just can't get enough of each other. we have been inseparable for the past year, tell each other how much we love each other every day, and the sex is the best i've ever had.
problem? well, he has a bit of an anger issue. not towards me! i have never felt unsafe around him, and i know he would never hurt me...he has never even cursed at me or called me a name. he treats me like a princess. but he has these pretty intense outbursts when he's angry and it's towards stupid shit...or at least things that i think are trivial and not worth the aggravation. i care about him a lot and i know this isn't healthy. i was wondering if there were any guys on here who might be able to relate and give me any advice on things i could do in those situations to help him calm down.
for example, we went golfing this weekend and let's just say he wasn't playing too well. couldn't really hit anything the way he wanted and it just got worse and worse and worse over the course of the day. cursing up a storm, bashing his clubs against the ground, a bit embarrassing honestly. when he'd get back in the cart, i'd rub his back and tell him it's no big deal, that he's just having an off day...it doesn't reflect his ability at all, that i know he's a great golfer. it seemed to help him calm down a bit during our transition to the next hole, but then he'd start at the next hole begging his club to give him a nice drive, it wouldn't go where he wanted and it would start the cycle all over again. i can see it from start to finish, but trying to talk to him about it just aggravates him more. i don't want him to feel like i'm pointing out his flaws, i want him to feel that i support him.
i've read a couple other threads and noticed people saying that anger comes second to another emotion. most of his outbursts stem from frustration. any suggestions or first-hand experience on how to manage those kinds of things. anything i can do in those instances as his partner that might help him relax? i love him so much and it kills me when he gets like that.
thanks for the responses in advance!