Boyfriend want space/time apart in relationship

[MissFitz]

Sorry for the long post but here's my story, i hope a few of you on here could shed some light on this for me or any advice would be appreciated.

After a few bad days at work and other things getting him down my boyfriend of 4 years asked yesterday for some space/time apart to make sure what he is doing is right, he said he is now looking at life in the greater scale of things and wonders what direction his life is going and wants to make sure we are together because we want to be together or is it just because its like a routine we have got into and just go along with it. He also mentioned that recently sex seemed to be more like a routine and the thought of our sex life being like this for the rest of our lives depresses him slightly. In the same message he went on to say he thinks i am totally gorgeous and that i'm the best thing to ever happen to him and doesn't want to throw away four years over 1 day but its like someones flicked a switch in this head and its brought on all these thoughts of his life and what its all about.

This came as a big shock to me and i'm totally gutted because i never seen this coming and i am now left wondering will this time apart make him realise he's happy on his own or miss what we had and want to be together for the long term. I agreed to not contact him at all i respect his wishes of wanting space but its really hard from having contact every day to nothing, it just seems so cold. He also ask if we could just leave our relationship status on facebook as in a relationship, also that he's not interested in anyone else he just wants to be on this own and do his own thing.

so last night after only one day of no contact he text to say its weird not talking to each other isn't it and ask what i was up to, after a few messages of general chat he then said that he still see's us as in a relationship at minute but just taking a bit of time apart and then see how we both feel and if it really is meant to be, he thinks deep down i wasn't happy either and the more i think about it maybe i wasn't but that still doesn't stop me loving and missing him.

I'm still confused and hurt over it all because i don't know if he text because he's actually missing me or just because its usually what we did before bed, and i still don't know how much time apart we are going to have. Although this space between us (its been a week today since i last seen him) has made me think about the relationship and how things maybe could have been better with effort from both sides rather than just going along with the normal old routine.

[Cerby]

Normally I'd say screw it, its likely over. But in this case 4 years is invested, so I'd say give him a week or two to sort himself out, but don't put your own life on hold for any longer than is absolutely necessary. In reality he could have met someone new and is giving it a shot before he ends it with you, but based on your story, I don't think that is the case.

[BackUpOrGetStng]

Call him and break up with him. Tell him you're open to trying again, but a break won't work for you, and you want to go out with other guys. It will take you out of this limbo space, and the mention of you seeing other guys will probably be enough to bring him back..for now at least.