Originally Posted by
caligirl23
Hello all,
Thanks for taking the time to read. I posted a while ago about a man I met who I dated for a very short time. Maybe a month. The relationship was amazing, so I thought, and I really fell very hard for him. I thought I had met "the one", but kept it pretty cool. He told his parents about me, I met his friends, he would text me "I can't wait to see you again, beautiful" and then..BAM. He ends it, telling me he doesn't feel a spark and isn't falling in love. With other relationships, it has happened sooner and he doesn't feel like it is happening with me, so he wanted to be honest. I can appreciate that, but I have been left feeling gutted. I tried to dust myself off and move on, but lately, he insists on contacting me here and there with random text messages such as "hi, how is your week going?". I used to respond, but recently had a family tragedy that I have been focusing on and he has been relentless in his offer of support, telling me "if there is anything you need, please let me know" and "can I do anything to make you feel better?". I started to ignore the texts once I got confirmation from him that they were nothing but him being nice. He said that he doesn't think romantic feelings for me will get stronger and things like that. So, I guess my thought of him trying to win me back were just little fantasies in my head.
Here is the deal...I ignore him and he continues contact. He sent me a text the other day telling me he had some tupperware he wanted to get back to me. Tupperware!? So, I politely responded, telling him I don't care about that and he could keep it. I was very indifferent, but polite and he finally admitted that he said that to see me. When I asked him why, he responded "Because I care about you and wanted to see how you were". I declined, telling him that him letting me know that he didn;t want to date me anymore sends the message that he doesn't want to see me, so I am confused.
Anyway, I saw him yesterday at a work function (we work together, but a different department, so rarely see each other) and he went out of his way to come over and talk to me, ask me how I was, telling me how beautiful I looked, etc.
I just cannot wrap my head around this. I listened to him when he said he didn't feel a spark and I believed him. I have engaged him in conversation and it got me nowhere. So, I ignore him and he still insists on random contact. Don't get me wrong, I do like hearing from him because I want so badly for him to come around and I won't tell him to stop. I guess my question is...if he doesn't want me, then why the contact? Why the hoping to see me deal? What is going on here?