Right, so I am really stuck.
I am in a Long Distance Relationship currently with my boyfriend of 13 months, he is in England and I am in the US. He visits semi-regularly (every 6 months for like 2 months each) and usually we are great. The problem is, he is wayyyyy to freaking laid back. We fight, and thats pretty much the only time he shows intense emotion. I get insulted by someone, or harrassed and he has a very hand off "I don't like confrontation" attitude that leaves me feeling like he never has my back. He never defends me, well, not in any meanigful way. He will sometimes make a witty retort back to someone who is mean to me, but nothing on the level I was expecting (essentially I expect the normal male reaction of being protective). Anyways, that is not the biggest issue, though it is one. The biggest issue is, he never takes me seriously when I am hurt or upset. If I am mad at him, or hurt, he takes it so blase like it doesn't even bug him. So...I very stupidly, in order to MAKE him take it seriously have 'broken up' with him 3 times now in a fight but gotte n back together shortly after (to be fair, I really was pissed enough that I wanted to break up...so it wasn't just a game). Now I am the boy who cried wolf and I am in a worse bind than before. Now he really doesn't take any fights we have seriously.
Not to mention, I broke a huge rule in our last fight and after we broke up I went and wrote a scathing message to his friend who was the cause of the fight. Now I am back with my boyfriend, but his best friend and his best friends girlfriend hate me. Its so awkward, and I almost feel like me and my boyfriend got back together after this last breakup more because thats what we always do...as opposed to getting back together because we fixed anything. I am just so confused, I love him so much but this relationship is driving me nuts. I just wish he was less laid back and actually acted like he cared!