what do I do?

[heartach]

My husband says I'm too needy and that I nEed to be less needyNmore responsible and not to expect him to fulfill my emtional needs and the compliments and positive reinforcements. Or anything else really thet I would like to hear and need to hear now and then to help me keep working on myself says that it is wrong cause it means he is fulfilling my needs and want , he says I need to do it for myself. But at the same time it is ok and wants me to do the same to him that he won't do for me. I know he loves me and our kids and I know a person needs to be selfish and do what they want and I get it. But I need to hear words now and then cause when he goes out with his friends that are women anf a couple of times I had tgo to the er or something happened a little while before they would go he would be all mad at me and it is something I cannot controll and he Iis more concerned about going out and not wanting to be late. But when we have made plans priopr to him going out with a friend he wants to do both things and well he isn't late for her but he is late for our date night. So what does he mean by me being needy and be more responsible and independant? How do I show him or become less needy ,rsponsible and independant. Plus how do I ignore the hurt and onesidedness

[zaccarus]

Not wanting to sound harsh but you need to grow some respect for yourself.

[heartach]

I know this may seem to be a dumb question but whr do you mean by grow some respect for myself? I'm confused. Thanks for your comment and honesty

[BackUpOrGetStng]

Start ignoring your husband, and start paying attention to other men.

Get your need for attention met elsewhere and he will take notice. Don't be shy about it either. If he asks where you're going tell him exactly where and with who.

[zaccarus]

You don't need him to say how good you are it is something that you need to learn to do yourself.