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    Why doesn't he want to be intimate with me?

    I've been with my boyfriend for 4 months now. We're both in our mid 20's. When I first got with him I explained that I'd been hurt a lot in the past so we took it slow.

    Now 4 months down the line I still feel like we're taking it slow! We both live with our parents still so it's a bit hard to be intimate a lot of the time anyway, but the nights/weekends we do get to ourselves he still doesn't try anything with me anyway. We've had weekends away where he's not tried it on with me at all the whole time. Though he's happy for me to give him orel.

    I have asked him (in a round about way) if it's something to do with me and he says not and assures me that he does like me (which I do believe him on), and also that he's just nervous which I don't understand as we've been together 4 month?! but then why does he not want to be intimate with me?

    I really don't know what else I can say to him or ask him to make him understand that this is really starting to get to me.

    Which is why I'm writing this post, I just don't know what to do anymore and need some advice on the situation.

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    Make a move on him. A real move. Have you even tried giving him head yet?

    You sound like moron. You're the one that requested to take it slow so its up to you to push things further.

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    I agree with BackUpOrGetStng ... Now you have do make a very confident and definitive move. (Obviously when you're alone)

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    Quote Originally Posted by Sweetybabyx View Post
    Though he's happy for me to give him orel.

    but then why does he not want to be intimate with me?
    He is selfish - he is getting HIS needs met, but doesn't care about yours.

    I'd drop him.
    Relax... I'll need some information first. Just the basic facts - can you show me where it hurts?

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    Just start it yourself.. He won't say no..
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    He's happy to get oral alright, because he doesn't have to worry about satisfying you. Vashti is right, he is just being selfish. I feel he has taken advantage of your vulnerablility. I say now it's time for him to perform oral on you, etc. If he doesn't oblidge, then show him the door.

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    Oops, I missed the sentence about you giving him oral.

    Sounds like he's just not attracted to you. I'd let someone I'm not attracted to give me head, but not **** her. Probably not for for an extended period of time like in this situation, but who knows what he's doing when you're not around.

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    Baby steps. Try to move from a blowjob to 69, see what happens.
    ...as ancient astronaut theorists would suggest

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