So here's the thing, there's this guy friend of mine that I've known for 5 years. I've only met him once but after that, we've only kept in touch through fb, texting, and talking on the phone. Long story short, we had a thing going on 4 years ago for a few months and then he broke my heart. Ever since then, we've stayed friends and dated other people. I am currently dating someone, however from time to time I still think about him. Lately, I've been thinking about him more and more often like I still like him. I feel incredibly guilty, though I am happy with the man I am with. It breaks my heart every time he tells me about some other chick that he was crazy about and it makes me wonder why he never chased after me like those other girls. Whenever we talk on the phone, he'd sing to me or we'd just chat about our day. When I get sad or need someone to talk to he's the first person I call and he'd pick up or return my call. For some reason he makes me feel better, although he's a very blunt person. I want to continue to stay friends with him but lately he's been wanting to talk about this girl he was head over heels for. Although I'm over him I feel as if I'm not completely over him. I feel as if I'm not ready to talk about this girl because I somewhat still have feelings for him. I can't help but think that maybe he may still have feelings for me too because he's there for me when I need someone to talk to, but I don't know if its just a friendly gesture. I don't know if it's mixed signs but he told me he "wanted me" a few months ago over the phone. I couldn't catch if it was sarcasm but it could have been. We have a really weird relationship. He refuses to call me his friend or label our relationship as anything, so I don't really know what we are. But anyways, when he broke my heart 4 years ago, he said that he didn't feel the butterflies in his stomach like you're supposed to when you're with someone you like. When he told me he "wanted me" he asked me if I'd ever consider going out with him and I told him "No, because he broke my heart before and I wasn't going to make that same mistake again." I'm confused and not sure of what kind of signs he's giving me or why he's saying things like that. Why would he be asking me something like that? Does it mean something? Should I talk to him when he wants to talk about other girls even though I might not be ready for it? I need some advice about everything. Let me know what you think.