HELP! I'm losing the woman of my dreams!

[waters]

Hello all. I'm new here. I don't usually ask strangers for help, but I'm desperate.
I'm a 44 year old, contractor, financially secure, no kids, married 1 year....blah blah blah
I have recently found the woman of my dreams. We met online "by accident" playing a silly game. She is from another Country very far from here. And let me tell you, She is truly amazing! Beautiful, smart, sexy, has a good heart, thoughtful, just absolutely perfect for me. We had a long distance relationship for almost 2 years, I would go visit her 5 times in a year. That was great! We went through the whole visa process, and she has been here in the US for about 16 months now.

When she first got here. Things were great. I was showing her all around my city, met my family, friends, etc... We completely remodeled the house from room to room, started a garden... We have also been trying to have a baby, with no luck. Either one of us has kids. We just got a puppy, bought a nice new car, everything is just going great..

Here's the problems:
1. She hates it here! It is so different from her country. There is no culture here... She loves me, I truly feel it. She treats me so good. So thoughtful. But she misses home. She misses her brothers.
2. I'm an idiot. I'm not the man she fell in love with. I've lost track of the main reason I exist. (HER) I still love her so much. More each day! But I don't show it.
3. Our sex life has tanked. I've always had problems in this area...(I need those blue pills) And at first it was great, now it's really few and far between. And she let's me know! She is in her prime (10 years younger than me).

This is just a quick rendition of my problems.. I don't have much time online. I hope someone can offer me some good advice on what to do, or some suggestions. As I said, I'm desperate. I love her so much. I don't want to lose her! But I feel if things continue like this, I will.

Thank you in advance.

[SadSack]

Sex toys, hire a prostitute for a threesome or maybe be a cuckold.

Also weed.

[Saya]

You can't move to her country?
What does she do in US? Is she working? Studying? She's possibly bored too right? Since she probably doesn't have many friends.
What does she do when she isn't studying/working?
Well, if you already knows that you need to show her how much you love her/give her affection.... Then perhaps, you should start to show her more affection?
I have no idea what is blue pills are....but if you have problems with sex life....maybe it is good to see a sex therapist?

[waters]

I would love to move to her country, but I can't speak the language, and no one there speaks english.
She works part time, and loves it. but it's too part-time. Only here and there, for a translation company...
Yes, she is bored. She works on the garden, cleans the house, and cooks. Which she is a wonderful cook... But that's all, nothing different. We go out, but just like shopping and other small stuff.
Blue pills are viagra..
How do I show more affection? What does she want? She wont tell me, but I do know that she is not happy.

[iamaninnocentma]

I can never understand people that have too much time on their hands. Sounds like she needs a playstation and a kick in the back pipe. As for your problem getting a stiffy, try a cucumber. Its what i use for my woman when im in the middle of a 72 holer and i dont have time to pump her.

[iamaninnocentma]

ps you dont mention her country, but judging by the evidence she sounds like a commie. if she leaves you can easily buy another for about a $1000.

[Saya]

I would love to move to her country, but I can't speak the language, and no one there speaks english.
She works part time, and loves it. but it's too part-time. Only here and there, for a translation company...
Yes, she is bored. She works on the garden, cleans the house, and cooks. Which she is a wonderful cook... But that's all, nothing different. We go out, but just like shopping and other small stuff.
Blue pills are viagra..
How do I show more affection? What does she want? She wont tell me, but I do know that she is not happy.

Well, perhaps start to learn her language?
Go visit her country together. (Go for a holiday, meet her friends/family)
How old is she?
Perhaps, take her out to a nice restaurant on the weekend, surprise her with by taking her out to lunch or something.
Is viagra working for you? If not then, maybe you need to see a doctor and ask for some opinions.

I am not sure what kind of affection she likes, but I think you two should talk about this and ask her what kind of affection she would like.
Or what kind of things she would want to do on the weekend or when she has no work.

Maybe she needs to find a full-time work to make her mind busy because if she loves working as a translator then, that is making her happy and she probably wouldn't mind working more.
Or does she want more attention from you when she isn't working?

[waters]

Thank you Saya. I/we have visited her country. 5 times. I've met all her friends and family.
She is 32.
We go out to eat very often, but she would rather cook. All we have here are chain restaurants. Not much selection...
Viagra works fine. However, with this problem, it rules out any sort of spontaneous interactions.
She is searching for a full time job, but in this economy, it is very difficult. I dont want her waiting tables, or cashier, etc... and I earn more than enough to keep us secure.

She is miserable. I just dont know what else to do.
I wake up much earlier then her, I make sure pets are fed, dishes are clean, put away, coffee is ready. etc. I kiss her goodbye, text her throughout the day, come home, talk about my day, have a beer, suggest things to do at night...
Lately, she has been very short with answers, reading her book. Like now. I'm up in the office, she's out on the porch where it's 95 degrees... I'm all out of ideas.

Someone Help me/us please.

[Saya]

Perhaps she needs new hobbies?

Is she miserable because she is bored because she doesn't have many friends in US? Because if this is the case then, maybe she needs to go out more and make new friends.
Eg, Learn new things by going to a dancing class or if she likes reading, perhaps she can join a book club? Or cooking class (Yes I understand that she is good at cooking, but I'm sure she can still go to the cooking class and learn new cooking and meet new people/make new friends. ) I mean, you can go to these classes together and have fun.

How about go out night time together and go watch a movie?

Do you have same common things as her? Same hobbies?

You said you have dog, maybe go for a walk together in the afternoon/night time with your dog.

You two have been together for a while now, have you two discuss about the future plans?

[IndiReloaded]

Have you read Bridges of Madison County? You should. Take her out to a museum or dancing. A dog is an excellent idea. Please don't have kids while she is feeling this way. Don't rule out depression as a possibility either.

Are you married? She should be able to get a job, if so. Not that there is shame in waiting tables, but maybe something more fun. What are her hobbies?

Also, if you are near a city, try meetup.com. Lots of activities there. She could connect w/a local women's group, take a course at the local school or college...

[uri]

She doesn't want you and I think she had made it pretty clear. I think it's time for you to move on to the next woman.