Advice from men and women appreciated
I have been with my girlfriend for about a year now. We are madly in love and get a long great. We are also 3 years apart, she is 31. We have talked about marriage and she has expressed to me that she would like to be married soon (possibly engaged this year.) I felt ok with everything until one day when I mentioned that I don't know if I want children. I didn't say I did or did not want, I simply said I don't know. She took it pretty seriously and said she thought she might be with the wrong person and I spent the rest of the day trying to change her mind. I also emphasized the fact that I don't know. Now, I do want to get married, but I don't know if I like having a the pressure of a deadline. I also don't know if I liked the way she reacted to my comment about not knowing about kids. I spoke to some older friends and they said it is absolutely ok to not know if you want kids. We get along so well, better than any other relationship I've been in. I do feel like I could marry this girl, maybe I met her too soon? Maybe our age difference is a bit of an issue. I could not imagine life with out her and I think she would be just as devastated if we ended the relationship. My question is, what do I do? I am afraid to bring up the subject of children, I don't want her to react the same way she previously did. I think that if I said something again she would want to end the relationship....
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