Hello,
My long term boyfriend left at the beginning of the year after nearly 4 years together. It's been quite emotionally violent relationship but at the end I understood it made happy when he's left. Same day when we split up, I posted on Facebook 'this is very sad day for me today' and one of my work colleagues, who I didn't know very well, started mailing me with questions what, why etc. It turned out he's been after me for a while and he's split up with his long term girlfriend too. So, almost straight away I went from one relationship to the other. I knew it wasn't a good idea as I needed time to process my break up but he's been very understanding and supportive and we've seemed to connect very well. We've been together 5 months and he's always been charming, lovely etc. I've realised recently I love him but never told him that as never heard it from him and don't want him to escape or force him to say the same. Last week, almost literally from day to day, he's changed- he doesn't get in touch very often as usually, his answers are one worded, he seems to be very distant. He's one of these people who don't talk much and don't talk about their problems either. I've told him I've noticed he's changed recently and asked if he has any problem. He answered he doesn't like his life because his overtime was cut at work and now he doesn't save anything and only pays the bills. As we've known each other only for 5 months I can't say if there's something else or he's actually worried about his financial situation and that's why he's distant. As I still remember when my ex was like that and it meant he was going to leave me. Now I'm afraid maybe with the current boyfriend is the same... I'm afraid as I'm very after him and this is the first time in my life I've started thinking about settling down someday in the future (I'm 30 year old) what has never happened before and I know it's in connection with him as he makes me feel safe and I feel like I can do so much in my life. I'm not sure what to do- as he doesn't talk much trying to talk to him is difficult. Maybe I should just give him space... I can't keep asking as don't want to seem to be clingy but he worries me because of him not feeling well with the financial situation and because of myself as I really don't want to lose him. i keep reminding myself when his friends told me he's been talking about me for couple months before we've started seeing each other- it sounds like somebody is really into you when keeps talking about you to friends, doesn't it? Could anyone tell me what's wrong in my thinking, please?