My boyfriend and I have been together for about a year and a half now and we're getting to that stage in the relationship where we see each others' true personalities.
He can get very obnoxious sometimes and never knows when to stop things. The only problem I really have is that he doesn't listen to me at all...if I say I don't want to do something, he makes me do it anyway. If I want him to stop doing something, he'll keep going.
Usually it's small or stupid things so I just let it go and go along with it, but sometimes it really bothers me.
For example, earlier today we were at the park. There were other people there but not too many. We were playing around and for some reason he wanted me to lift up my shirt after he found out I wasn't wearing a bra. I said no because we were in public. As always, he didn't listen and did it himself. I was really upset and embarrased. I didn't say anything about it (I'm used to just keeping it inside when he makes me mad), but I think he could see in my face that I was mad about it. He kissed me and we made up, he said he was just playing around, etc. (I even call him 'sourpatch' to my friends because he acts like a sour patch candy...first he's sour, then he's sweet).
The thing is he does stuff like that all the time. He's always telling me where to go, who to hang out with, what to wear, even what to eat. He's just very bossy and insistent. He takes me places in the middle of the night even if I'm tired as hell, insists on sex even if I'm not feeling well, and sometimes does stuff that gets me in trouble...at the end of the year for example, I ended up in a LOT of trouble because I skipped my 4th period literally 64 times because he insisted I skip with him.
I realize a large part of this is my fault too because I *never* get mad with him. I deal with conflict by avoiding it or just letting the other person have their way most of the time but it isn't working out well for me in this case. At the same t
I just think it needs to stop now before it goes too far...I'm literally afraid he'll make me do drugs with him or something (he's very into acid lately...I don't even know where he gets the stuff), since he makes me do everything else. And I'm not judging him for it, but I'd really rather stay drug free myself. Somebody's got to drive him home safely while he's tripped out high on drugs...
I really like him but being out going wherever he wants me to go and doing what he wants me to do really made my grades drop this year. I went literally from a 4.1 GPA to a 3.2 GPA and my parents don't even know what's going on (they don't like him so I make sure they don't really know about him).
How can I get him to listen to me?!