Originally Posted by
libran
Hi new on this forum, about a month or two ago, I was a very busy guy involved in projects(its not as cool as it seems, theyre just dissertations) and I met this girl when I was working on my stuff at a bar. We got on really well (she really seemed like someone special I'd never met before) and then she caught me off guard (i was working) and asked me out and I (instinctively reacted) said no cause I was very busy and hanging out with a lot of my other friends. Now that I'm done (another year of my degree), all my friends I know got busy with jobs and took up degrees and I happen to be on the sofa with cheeseballs all day for the past month (summer break from my bachelors degree). I guess my question is, how do you deal with the regret that surrounds the loss of an opportunity to be with someone who you really thought was special? Or is this just a lame mind trick thats saying 'youre lonely now and shouldnt have said no?
This is just spilled milk, there is nothing to regret here. This is a part of life that you'll just learn to move past. When I graduated high school I had a wicked chance to be with a girl who I had gone to school with for 5 years, but only really gotten to know that evening. She wanted to spend more time together, but I quickly declined because we were in different cliques. I didn't realize that when HS was over, everyone dissolved into real life and popularity meant nothing after that. For a long time I realized that I had probably made a bad decision, but never regretted it. I learned from it.
"All is fair in love and war." - Francis Edward Smedley