Hi! I'm wondering if I can get some advice here (I'll be as specific as possible).
I'm 22 years old, not particularly attractive but I wouldn't say unattractive either. I've just moved to a new country (Australia, 3 months ago) where I know no one but my own family members. Before I moved to Australia I had never had a boyfriend, had never had sex and had barely even kissed a guy. Sure, I worked and studied but there was never any men at either of those places. I tried online dating and had two pretty terrible dates.
So I moved to Australia with my family. I joined another online dating site and started chatting to a great guy. We met and really clicked and became a couple after only a short week and a half. We even slept together (several times). However, after a month he tells me that he isn't ready for a serious relationship after coming out of a long, very serious one not long ago. I fought for him for a while, but when it was clear he was set in his ways, I dropped it and let him go.
Now, I don't know what to do. I've read that the two best places to meet men are at University or work. Previous study I never met any men, and I have been looking for work for 3 months now and nothing. This, of course, means I can't afford to do a short course. I have tried volunteering and community places and attended a cheap evening class to meet people, but it was all women there or men who didn't seem to show any interest in me.
A contributing factor is that I have a stutter, which makes me incredible shy about meeting new people. I get so anxious before blind dates (online dates), I have been known to make myself ill.
So, advice. What do I do? Do I just keep trying volunteering, keep applying for jobs, keep trying online dating? Or, perhaps, do I try again with my ex - the only man that he ever shown an interest in me?