Intimidated or just not that into me ?

[ellekay]

There's this guy I've been talking to for about a month or two, and he seems very interested, but every time we're in front of each other he transforms into ice, acting like he doesn't care.

Like last night my friends told me that he threw a few glances at me every time I wasn't looking, his body language was pretty suggestive like : body turned towards me, legs wide open, feet pointed towards me, etc... He was with his friends and when I walked passed him, someone called my name, my friends heard it, I heard it, and when I turned around he was looking at me, and I know it was me he was calling and not another girl because my name is pretty rare, and when I sent him a text saying "did you call my name 2mn ago ?" and he was like "nope", I mean I'm not stupid you moron, I HEARD YOU ! Lol, and at one time he left our "group" of friends with his friends and I did'nt follow him because he was acting like he didn't care, and I don't really know any of his friends, and so then he sends me a text saying "you're not even gonna come with us ?", I DON'T KNOW WHAT HE WANTS, he seems really interested but I don't know, so please help, what do you think ? Do you think he's just shy/intimidated ? Or just not that into me ? Because I really wanna figure out, I really like this guy.

Thanks

[Boisdevie]

Ask him out on a date. Then you'll know. But unless he's insanely shy if he was interested he'd have already asked you out.

[Wakeup]

You've been "talking to him" for a month or two and he's not officially asked you out on a date. Ignore him. My brother was THE poster boy for shy guys and he was interested enough to get the nerve to ask my friend out on a date. They later married.

This guy you really like sounds like a game playing twit who is able to rent space in your brain for free with said games.

Ask him out one-on-one but watch how he treats you afterward should he say 'yes' to your invite and for goodness sakes if he says 'yes' don't jump into bed with him the same night. Figure out if your crush is reciprocated or he's just a game playing waste of space.

[Sixpacj]

You've been "talking to him" for a month or two and he's not officially asked you out on a date. Ignore him. My brother was THE poster boy for shy guys and he was interested enough to get the nerve to ask my friend out on a date. They later married.

This guy you really like sounds like a game playing twit who is able to rent space in your brain for free with said games.

Ask him out one-on-one but watch how he treats you afterward should he say 'yes' to your invite and for goodness sakes if he says 'yes' don't jump into bed with him the same night. Figure out if your crush is reciprocated or he's just a game playing waste of space.

You should really take your past hurts and insecurities somewhere else...

[Wakeup]

Op: Dont let a mysoginist (aka sixpac) convince you that I'm hurt and/or insecure. I'm happy and have had a wonderful relationship with the same man for over 40 years now. He tries his best to convince women to allow men to mistreat them. He's shown that over and over again in this particular sub-forum. I do believe he is only able to pull low self-esteemed women who chase and lose their self respect by not seeing things clearly.

[smackie9]

There's this guy I've been talking to for about a month or two, and he seems very interested, but every time we're in front of each other he transforms into ice, acting like he doesn't care.

Like last night my friends told me that he threw a few glances at me every time I wasn't looking, his body language was pretty suggestive like : body turned towards me, legs wide open, feet pointed towards me, etc... He was with his friends and when I walked passed him, someone called my name, my friends heard it, I heard it, and when I turned around he was looking at me, and I know it was me he was calling and not another girl because my name is pretty rare, and when I sent him a text saying "did you call my name 2mn ago ?" and he was like "nope", I mean I'm not stupid you moron, I HEARD YOU ! Lol, and at one time he left our "group" of friends with his friends and I did'nt follow him because he was acting like he didn't care, and I don't really know any of his friends, and so then he sends me a text saying "you're not even gonna come with us ?", I DON'T KNOW WHAT HE WANTS, he seems really interested but I don't know, so please help, what do you think ? Do you think he's just shy/intimidated ? Or just not that into me ? Because I really wanna figure out, I really like this guy.

Thanks

It's quite possible he is socially inept with girls, especially ones he is interested in. If this is how things ride with him, it may not be worth your time because it will never change. You could call him out on it and say "If you showed more interest and confidence when you are with me I would have given you a chance because I like you, but since you go cold on me, I feel this is just a waste of time". See what happens.

[bulrush]

OP, this guy sounds like he is socially inept with girls, or he has been taught some weird ways to treat girls. In any case, he is confusing, so you should move on.