Originally Posted by
haxan
That's asking for a lot. You're going to just have to ask him point blank if he'd go for that kind of a relationship. Even if he says he'll go for it, keep in mind he may say he's exclusive with you, but in reality a lot of time apart = a lot of time to have fun with other people. Not being in a serious relationship and spending a lot of time together, tbh, most men are going to play around.
Why is it asking a lot? I would think this is the ultimate freedom for a man. She's pretty much saying she would like a friend for sex and companionship without the hassle of a relationship. What is it she isn't giving this guy? The headache of a blended family (I think she mentioned he has children also)?
@ Agg - kudos to you for knowing your mind, leaving your bad marriage and putting your daughter first. Any man who doesn't respect your priorities and reasons isn't worth a relationship with. I think if you are patient, you will find someone who is forward-thinking enough to know that relationships evolve as trust develops. You'll be just fine.
Second thoughts can generally be amended with judicious action; injudicious actions can seldom be recovered with second thoughts.
--Cyteen by C.J.Cherryh