Guy best friend...

[bubbles91]

So me and my guy best friend (i'm female) have been good friends for 7 years now. We don't spend loads of time on our own, we always hang out in a group but we have different groups that just us two hang around with. We've always been very flirtatious when we talk/ text and we often walk home holding hands.

2 summers ago we started liking eachother and we were texting everyday for months and arranging for us and our friends to go out all the time. When we were out we would act like a couple- holding hands/ cuddling/ kissing each other on the cheek etc. Then one night there was just us two and one of our guy friends at my best friends house and our guy friend got really drunk and passed out. Me and my best friend ended up kissing etc and nearly slept together, but i stopped it as i was worried about what it would do to our friendship. We talked about getting into a relationship but because we're at uni's far apart he didn't want to as he is very set against long distance relationships.

We then had a few nights out after this where we kissed when we were out, went home and fell asleep cuddling. But when i went back to uni after the christmas i realised that i needed to move on, and i stopped the constant texting. However whenever we did text/ saw eachother we would still flirt, but there would be no cuddling etc (although he kissed me on the cheek randomly when we were out on a couple of occasions).

We went on holiday 4 weeks ago and it was just the two of us sharing a room and on the 5th night we were out and ended up sleeping together. It was my first time, we were both drunk and he wasn't massively affectionate. The next 2 nights nothing happened between us except we play fought a couple of times. We were talking one night and i made a joke about maybe kissing one of his other friends on his birthday night out a few weeks later and he told me not to do it in front of him and when i asked him why he said because it would be weird.

I then went back to uni for 3 weeks and came back the other night for his birthday. I was outside his house on the phone at one point and he came up behind me and cuddled me, kept kissing me on the cheek and saying how glad he was that i'd come back home. Then later on our friends came back to mine. I went to go upstairs to bed and he followed me up and got in my bed. I put my PJs on, got into bed too and asked him to turn off the lamp. He did and then turned over and kissed me, and we ended up having sex again. This time he was very affectionate, kissing me loads and we fell asleep cuddling.

Both times it's happened its not been awkward at all and we've just acted normally the next morning.

My head is proper messed up now. I don't know if i like him again or not. I don't understand why the sex wasn't very good (He had no trouble getting an erection, but didn't come...) and i don't know if it was because we were drunk or what. I don't know if he likes me or not. And i'm seeing him in 2 weeks time for one of our friends birthday nights out and i don't know whether it's a good idea to sleep with him again or not. I also don't understand because we don't see each other very often and yet its always the same when we do see each other, and even though i kept my distance from him for 7 months it kind of seems like our feelings are still there, which i find strange.. and shouldn't it have been awkward the next morning too

sorry for the long post! I'm just very confused about it all

EDIT: we have both stayed single for the past 2 years

[oldskool83]

u have a **** buddy. either be his bf or dont. been long nuff.

[haxan]

Guys and girls who stay friends for a long period of time always run in to this situation eventually. Probably just wanted to know what you were like sexually and not necessarily very interested (you probably would've known that years ago).