Originally Posted by
Petit Papillon
So yeah, secretly creating accounts and what so ever. You don't do things in secret if you know they are not wrong. Your subconsciousness tells you it's wrong, that's why you do it in secret. Do you really need to create problems in your relationship, in your family actually, for being able "to say hi" every few months? Really? If you have a family to care about, those things should be really irrelevant. And sorry, but 1,5 year long relationship is not "nothing". You choose to cause those problems. And this ex, she's obviously not that close friend, if you can go few months without talking to each other, which means, it's not that important to stay in touch with her.
And I will add, your gf has the reason to worry, because even if 8 years ago you decided to "stay friends" with your ex, and since then you weren't really that close friends, and finally you are, it means that in those 8 years you two could change, and you could see each other as "new personas" so the feelings could grow again.
Your gf and your kid should be more important to you than this so called friendship. Always. It's not like you don't have other friends, right?