Question.

[Rinabear]

So, yes, I have googled my boyfriend. I stumbled upon A LOT of websites that I found his photos on.
The first website I found him on was a mobile ringtone site where "he" was communicating back and forth with females.
I asked him if it was him and he said that he let his friend (in prison) use his photos and his password to communicate with these
females. Then this year, I had googled him again... and found more websites.. Porn websites and dating websites. Of course,
again... He claimed it wasn't him and that it was the females in his past making these pages. Everything on the sites are exact
words of what I KNOW would come out of his mouth.

Is it possible for a man to be telling the truth about this? I've tried to make accounts to talk to him, but he won't add me as a
friend or respond to my messages. I'm just tired of thinking it's him and if he is looking for other people to chat with...
then why can't he just be honest with me and find someone new.. instead of making me miserable?

[cheekxxs]

Whahahahahhahaahhahaahahahahahahahahhaahahahahahah ahhaahahahhaahaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa

This is a joke right? he most think you are retard to believe such a crap. And i would be more worry him having friends in prison .
and helping them to break the rules to use his stuff if that was true.

And how long do you even know him? i would google him way before even start dating him.

Porn, prison, females in the past? sounds also as a very bad sign to me. to much drama.anyways

[Rinabear]

We've been together since 2009. We have two kids together and no, this isn't a joke. He moved out here to be with me.
I found out about a child he had through Facebook from his past that he had never told me about after having his child.
He said he didn't tell me at first because He thought I wouldn't talk to him.. but I had a child of my own so, why would I do such a thing?
Then he claimed that the childs mother left the state and never tried to contact him...so, he "assumed" he wasn't the father.

Which, I don't even know anymore... Since it was BEFORE me.. I just decided to leave it alone...
but I'm just questioning his place and my place in this relationship now.

[Petit Papillon]

Well he's obviously lying to you. That's for sure. Now, since you have kids together, you must decide whether it's enough big issue for you to make your kids live without their father or not. Remember that it has good and bad sides. Good sides, well your kids will have father at home everyday. Bad sides, your kids will grow up in a family, where parents don't love each other, cheat on each other and so on.
I just assume that he will not admit to it. And he's showing no remorse by creating another accounts. This decision belongs to you, but in my opinion, he's definitely lying to you. This scenario is very common.

[cheekxxs]

I think maybe you should have do more research on this dude before even introduce him to your kid.
Cause he sounds to me like a pathological lair. he lie after lie and gives you all the answers people often use and
some that not even a retard believe.

And you dont lie about having kids. thats is something big yo!
Its stupid that you have to find out things like that true internet.

I dont know how you can be with someone like that for even 1 hour. cause
what will be the next lie? and trust is a huge thing in a relationship, and lie is what make trust leave.
so.............. its up to you, but i would not want someone like that around my kid.
who know what else he is doing that is not on the internet. hm...

[Rinabear]

@Petit, That's exactly what I don't want. I know they say a family must stick together for their children, but at the same time
I don't want to LIE to my children and make them believe that their parents love each other and are being loyal to one another which behind closed doors.. it's lie after lie and they don't like being around one another. I just had a daughter and I definitely don't want her to think it is okay to be in a relationship like that.

I know it's up to me.. Which I feel is really hard for me right now, but at the same time.. I also feel that it is not good for my health arguing everyday and knowing that in the back of my mind.. he is looking elsewhere for communication and is unhappy being with me. I can't even recall the last time we slept together in the same bed.

It's good and bad to know that I am not the only one who is going through a similar situation. I just want to hear and see that I am NOT just tripping and overreacting on what I am finding out because I am starting to go crazy and accepting his actions.

[smackie9]

I can't believe the sad ass bs stories he is telling you....women don't go out of their way to make up fake profiles of some random guy.....Send him on his way....to the curb!

[Petit Papillon]

Well then it's a big step for you already. If you are looking for an outside opinion on whether he is lying to you or not, then he is. He definitely is. So I guess you have you answer there and can continue your steps.

[Rinabear]

I can't believe the sad ass bs stories he is telling you....women don't go out of their way to make up fake profiles of some random guy.....Send him on his way....to the curb!

That's what I said.. I'm like.. why would a woman make more than one fake profile using all of your photos? Although, she did create a Twitter page to curse me out for.. I don't know what reason. I don't think she would CONTINUE to do more things. I think she just created a twitter page to make herself known and try to hurt me over the internet. Which was a fail, but yeah, making fake profiles is completely different.

[Rinabear]

Well then it's a big step for you already. If you are looking for an outside opinion on whether he is lying to you or not, then he is. He definitely is. So I guess you have you answer there and can continue your steps.

Well, thank you. I am officially going to stop bringing up the situations and lies every chance that I get and just leave it alone...
focus on work and the babies... , I guess we'll see what happens after that, but that doesn't mean that I am going to tolerate his BS.
It's my house, so 'I' am definitely NOT going to pick up and leave.

[Petit Papillon]

Oh and about what women are able to... There was this crazy bitch, she created a fake fb profile and msn and talked to me. She found my myspace account (that I used only 2 weeks and forgot it ) and wrote me insulting messages there. She was everywhere, she even created a profile here on the forum to follow what I was writing here. Of course I spotted her (she used the same name as the name of that fake profile) and I made her go away. Well she was crazy And this was a girl that my ex was cheating on me with. Via internet, but it was enough. She was sending him explicit pictures, that I found that were so gross that I wish I could forget them lol.
So yeah, there are some crazy bitches, but I don't think your man is innocent here.

[smackie9]

Me personally if this crap was going on about my BF, I wouldn't let it go, I would let him go.

[Rinabear]

Oh and about what women are able to... There was this crazy bitch, she created a fake fb profile and msn and talked to me. She found my myspace account (that I used only 2 weeks and forgot it ) and wrote me insulting messages there. She was everywhere, she even created a profile here on the forum to follow what I was writing here. Of course I spotted her (she used the same name as the name of that fake profile) and I made her go away. Well she was crazy And this was a girl that my ex was cheating on me with. Via internet, but it was enough. She was sending him explicit pictures, that I found that were so gross that I wish I could forget them lol.
So yeah, there are some crazy bitches, but I don't think your man is innocent here.

Oh, I believe you.. that chick he tried to blame it on... she had openly admitted via twitter that she tried to find me for a year to curse me out... Pretty pathetic. She said that he used her for money and to pay his phone bills. Pretty pathetic on both parts if you ask me because she looked like King Kong. So embarrassing. I don't know what's wrong with me sometimes.

[Rinabear]

Me personally if this crap was going on about my BF, I wouldn't let it go, I would let him go.

Kind of hard to just let him go with 3 kids and him living with me. His mother is the only one who baby sits our kids. I don't want to ruin that not to be a user.

[Rinabear]

I am working on it, though. I'm trying.