Need Advice Please

[cutelilbirdie]

Me and my fiance have been together for 8 years. We got engaged two years ago. He has been my first love and my only love. We have always been in a long distance relationship.
I always thought we had an open relationship, he told me that he was always honest with me even if it would hurt me.
Last week I found out that he had made an account on the dating website POF, I was not 100% sure if it was him or not but my gut feeling told me that it was him.
I then confronted him and asked him if he has a an account on a dating website. At first he said no, but then he stuttered and told me he did. He told me that he was only "curious" to see what the site was about. He also admitted that he messaged a girl on there who he thinks is the most gorgeous girl. And he tells me that his only intention was to be "friends" with her. I know that he was intersted in that girl because he had mentioned to me before and he had her pictures saved on his computer.I was so furious and hurt when I found all of this out. I was praying that that account did not belong to him.
I am stuck, I don't know what I should do. I feel betrayed, but at the same time I have a hard time letting him go.

Help!

[Boisdevie]

Can I ask a question as I'm curious. I always thought that you go engaged to be married. So 2 years after getting engaged you're still not married. Why not? Seems wierd to me.
As regards your BF, perhaps he's getting bored with the relationship but finds it hard to tell you directly.

[cutelilbirdie]

We are planning on getting married in 2 years, as I am in school right now.

[Boisdevie]

You don't know what to do? Well you can either:
1. Accept that he loves you like he says, or
2. Think that it's pretty bloody fishy that he's on a dating website and really challenge him about this.

Either way you need to put on your big girl pants and have a long serious conversation with this guy. Perhaps the distance is killing things? Do you actually get to see each other regularly?

[cheekxs]

so now are dating sites the topic of this week?..........

and long distance? i dont feel that. its often fake i think.

And just have a good talk about it with him.