Confusing and hurtful. I've been involved with a woman for one year, many ups and downs. About 2 months ago, we had been arguing, she registered on a dating site. We didn't break up, just had been disagreeing on a few things, we don't often fight.
She says she considers us a couple, exclusive to one another, she says she would decline a date opportunity, and expects me to do the same. Says she's still on a dating site, but never checks messages. Says she won't drop her account there because she spent $150. I offered to give her the $150 if she dropped the account, she declined. I then asked her if there would be a problem with me doing the same, setting up an account, posting photos, profile, etc. She says me doing that is not the same, she wants it there only as an option that she's not using, but me doing it is not the same thing in her opinion. But her a dating site profile box today says she's been active in the last 24 hours.
Am I being played for a fool? Being used by her until something better comes along?
I believe if 2 people are in a relationship that they both label as together, exclusive to one another, then it is wrong to also have an active account - profile on a dating site that she is in fact, checking in on. I told her this scares and hurts me deeply, she just keeps saying its an option she's not using, but she is. Again, she says me setting up the same account - profile would not be the same thing. I don't really want to set up an account. I asked her about that to see her reaction, to let her know how much this hurts.
What do you see this as? What would you do if you were me? MOST IMPORTANTLY, what should I say to her about all this?
- Hurting in Idaho