Girlfriend isn't massively affectionate!

[berg101]

Hi everyone.

This sites been a huge help to me over the past few months and now looking for some more guidance.

Basically I have been with my girlfriend for about 3 months now, love being with her, we have a great time when we see each other which is probably about 5 times a week and I roughly spend about 2/3 nights a week at her place.

The issue I have is that she isn't the most affectionate girlfriend I have ever had, like she doesn't really give much away, it's rare she kisses me first or indicates she wants to snuggle with me (although she did actually do that last night). When we go out and she's had a couple of drinks she seems to loosen up and become more open and much more affectionate.

I know how she feels about me and I know she's wanting this to be a LTR, for example she was saying that next Summer I have to come sailing with her family.

To me it feels like something is missing tho and I think it's to do with the lack of affection - Im not a wimp who constantly needs to be kissed and cuddled but I have to admit that the lack of obvious affection is getting to me slightly now.

Im looking for some advice on how to get her to open up more and offer more affection without me initiating it - should I back away slightly and give her some distance or what?!

Any help you guys can offer would be greatly appreciated.

Crazy about this girl and would really like to make a proper go of things.

Thanks in advance.

[berg101]

I'd just like to add that when she's really jolly and not stressed out she's far more affectionate.

[smackie9]

Some girls like the man to take the lead, some are shy about it, some it's just their personality, some people in general need more time to get to know you to feel more comfortable. You have to communicate to her about this issue you are having with her and see if she will increase the affection. You just may have to have some patience with her or what you see is what you get.

If there can't be a change then you are not compatible...that you don't bring the passion out in her....she could be just settling just to be in a relationship.

[cheekxs]

I dont think she have to be affectionate with you at all!

Cause she barely know you dude.

And if she wants to keep it that way is okay. and act different when drunk is not to mention cause its normal people act like that
but its not okay. i dont know how old you guys are.

But a woman also open up when she feels okay. and safe.

So its not something you force!
You need to tak to her about it.

Even thou i think she dont own you noting , especially not that affection cause you dont know her that long
for her to feel like it if she was about that.

[cheekxs]

and some people just dont want you to be all the time on their body.
respect that.

[Boisdevie]

I dont think she have to be affectionate with you at all!

Cause she barely know you dude.

He's been with her 3 months so that's long enough to get down to business on a regular basis. But then you'll disagree with me because I'm not a religious nut job so I'm really naughty.

[cheekxs]

He's been with her 3 months so that's long enough to get down to business on a regular basis. But then you'll disagree with me because I'm not a religious nut job so I'm really naughty.

nut job? no you are a moron retarded fool!

and only a men can reply such a crap.
its not about how long only but how a woman feels at the moment .
and you barely dont know woman. so get busy read at least some books.

and 3 months is noting.
its not to the men to decide when she have to kiss or hug him or what ever.

[Boisdevie]

Cheekxs I'm curious. Are you:

1. Permenantly drunk?
2. On drugs of some kind?
3. Or just really impossibly stupid?

I'd love to know.

Love,
the moron retarded fool.

[cheekxs]

ask your mother! go play with kids of your age. and let adult conversations be for adults. faggot!

[Maple1714]

Cheeks you are crazy!

To the OP - I am not a highly affectionate GF either. It takes me a long time to get that way. I like the man to take charge and if he does then I eventually loosen up a lot. When I am drunk I can get very loose...like most people. Soooo just take charge and initiate the physical contact more and see what happens. 3 months isn't really that long of a time...I am sure she will loosen up more with time

[cheekxs]

and you are stupid. i dont waste time

[Maple1714]

Cheeks - I really hope that English is your second language. Where are you from originally?

[IndiReloaded]

Cheekxs = crackhead.

[IndiReloaded]

On a stolen computer.

[IndiReloaded]

Stealing wifi sitting beside the dumpster outside her pimps apartment.