Has anyone here had any luck with a love coach or expert relationship advisor?

[LittleMissMoon]

When I have arguments with my boyfriend (can be pretty often) I always find myself crying before I can really share my feelings and then my boyfriend looses respect for any idea I might have had and chalks it up to me being emotional. I wish I could have someone in my ear during arguments so I could effectively get my point across without breaking down and essentially losing control. How can I expect someone to hear me out when I'm so overcome with emotion? Would it be crazy to want an expert to help me articulate my feelings so I could actually get somewhere and stop having the "oh, if I had only said this, or that instead of bursting into tears" conversation with myself?

[HeartIsAching]

Ok... bullshit.

If he really cared about you, then you bursting into tears wouldn't make him "lose respect", it'd make him feel horrible.

[haxan]

Well, politicians have speech writers so they don't step on their dick all the time when they address their constituents. I don't see any problem with you having someone argue your points when you fight with your boyfriend.