Hello there. I'll try to sum this up in as little as i can. Just need help!
Me and my bf of a year and a half split on sunday (19 aug) we have lived together for over a year.. the reason we split was my fault, i know people do blame themselves but ill try and help you understand. I am 20 years old, he is 19, I love him with all my heart and know he feels the same.
We split after an argument got out of hand (no violence though) by words. i initiated the argument, which 9/10 i do. i don't want to argue with him but i think on things that are never relevant and after a while they become worse (i over exaggerate and explode) i cant control it and just say to myself im being stupid and is it really worth it?
i dont listen to myself and regret it once its done which is wrong i know. this is what happened on sunday, i asked him if he wanted to be with me and he asked me to leave him alone for a bit. which i didnt as i kept repeating the question resulting in him getting angry and telling me he didnt. i shouldnt have been so insistent with him:/ when i was packing my things up he said he didnt want this to happen, he loved me and he always would but he cant be with me. ill never forget them words as now im hoping and praying for reconciliation. just about 3 days later here i am without hearing a word.
i have text him twice (yesterday and earlier) but no reply:/ is this because he needs time or just doesnt want to know anymore. i was close to his mum so have asked her ho he is and she said quiet and that he just stayed in the night we split which is unusual as he usually sees a friend for a bit who lives up the road. hes very outgoing.
we have been through alot together these past few weeks..
hes been in a car accident, his granddad passed away and his mum has been ill.
i suppose me arguing with him for no reason made him reach breaking point. i text im to say that i am deeply sorry for what i did that day and that i loved him and couldnt imagine my life without him.
despite splitting twice, we were very happy. we went out together we trusted each other and we were our complete selves around each other. play fighting, meaning less banter between us which was full of laughter.. we enjoyed and hated the same things, so much in common i couldnt believe it.
this has all happened once before about a year ago where we split for 4 days and didnt speak for 3. but i dont want to compare this to the last time as im getting all hopeful.
like i said, he told me he didnt want to split and he loves me but he just couldnt be with me. i suppose i pushed too many buttons yet again.
all i need is just some advice.. is he just taking time from not speaking because he needs space? is there hope for us?
any advice is very much appreciated, i just need some reassuranceand support. i will keep updated if anything changes.. thankyou for takin the time to read this.