So a couple of months back I cheated on my gf of 5 years. We had been living together and as soon as I told her, she told me to move out. So I did.
For a month after, she wouldn't speak to me, calling me every name under the sun, telling me that I ruined her life. Over the last month she has been in touch, told me that she wants us to be 'best friends' still and hang out. We met for the first time a few weeks back an slept together. Literally seconds after we slept together she told me that she doesn't want to give me any force hope and that we'll never get back together because she can never trust me again but doesn't want to loose me from her life altogether. During this time I know for a fact that she was hanging out with some guy she met in a bar, claiming they are only friends, but he was texting her when we were meeting for the first time a few weeks back and i know she has been out on nights out with him 'as mates' since. Now I don't believe that for a second. But now this guy is off the scene she really wants to hang out all the time and keeps messaging me saying she is lonely and wants to hang out as mates. But ive started to say no, one because it is too hard and two I actually don't want to get back with her. Since being on my own I've come to realise that the relationship was going down hill and maybe the reason for why i did what i did. Now I'm not saying she does want me back, but everyone seems to think she does and will soon ask to give things a try. I saw her on Sunday at a party and she got a bit drunk and wanted me to come home with her and i said 'no, it's not like we're going to get back together are we?' and she said 'i just dont know. ive been speaking to people about it and i dont know' and now as i'm writing this she is messaging me saying 'i miss cuddles, i miss feeling loved and safe. i'm very lonely' and ultimately i think thats. she just said 'its because im not with u and i cant be and its killing me'.
It's killing me that I know where she is and i can't come and look after her. she wants me to but i know i shouldnt. what do you all think?