Hi. To the males out there ... How did my boyfriend jump to this conclusion and was I over-reacting to get upset?
A bit of history. We are in a long term, serious relationship and are both currently under a bit of stress for different reasons. This night we were talking on the phone and it came up that I would be getting home cooked meals again as I am moving back home, to which I replied that my dad is lazy and I would probably get frozen meals. (my mum works almost 12 hr days and my dad gets home early afternoon so he is usually responsible for dinner. However, he often comes home, sits in his lounge chair and doesn't move for the rest of the afternoon, so mum gets a frozen meal for dinner).
Anyway. After my comment, my boyfriend says "that's one of the things that worries me". I had no idea what he was talking about. His explanation was, (if we were married) I would call him lazy if he didn't cook me dinner. !? For starters, I have never called him lazy, he is usually the one who cooks for me anyway, and I freely admit that I am no domestic goddess. I just can't understand how the jump was made from an innocent comment about my dad to a hypothetical attack on him!
I was very upset by his comment, as I felt then that he obviously doesn't think much of me, and his response to me getting upset was that he didn't mean to upset me, but was just "trying to express how he felt" and "in future should he not do that?"
My question is, how did he turn a comment about my dad into a personal attack on him, and what does that say about what he thinks of me?