Originally Posted by
St Stephen
So before she left, she asked how she could stay in touch with me so I told her to find me on facebook, which she did almost immediately. Since then we have texted a bit and last Sat she asked me to meet her out for coffee at a local coffee shop. It was pretty late, like 11 at night but I said sure and went and met her. I showed up expecting her boyfriend to be with her but he was not. It was just her (and our friend who waited on us). We chatted for a couple hours and in that time, she mentioned her relationship with the boyfriend was less than 2 months old.
Tell her you like her and would happily date her if she were single. Say you are uncomfortable with seeing a woman who has a boyfriend (blame it on old-fashioned values). Stay in touch as friends only (i.e. no late night coffees), back way off, and let her choose what she wants. Date other women in the meantime to take the edge off.
Good luck. PS - read up on women and 'monkey-branch theory'. I.e. some insecure women will only 'jump' to a new branch (man) when a better prospect is assured. Beware, they can be intoxicating, but also a lot of trouble.
http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=Monkey%20Branching
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