Outside Advice

[Lemsip]

This might get long but here goes..

It started 3 and a half years ago. This girl, despite being a few years younger than me, became attracted to me, pushed for me, and got me.

We're both from christian backgrounds, but her family (particularly her mother and step sister) are VERY protective of her, so we didn't tell them about us but kinda dated in secret.

We would literally talk online all day, and when we weren't online we'd be texting. We'd go out with friends once or twice a week to see each other, and they all could see we were such a unique and inseparable couple, a perfect match. All of this happened under the radar of her family and people connected to her family, who assumed we were just best friends.

So, three years down the line. All is good still, we still talk loads (probably not as much as we first did, but still a lot), still go out with friends etc. For all that time she'd been preparing for when the day came to tell her parents, knowing she'd be in for a battle.

That one day came, her mother started questioning her and she felt was the right time to reveal to them that she liked me. She hit the roof. "HES NOT FOR YOU!" "HES UGLY!" "YOU CAN DO BETTER!", all the usual. Things got heated, she panicked, and broke up with me.

We were both distraught, she begged for me back the next day, so I agreed, on the fact that she battled her parents and made it okay for us to hang out/talk still. She told me that she'd made a 'deal' with her parents that if she still liked me by the end of the year they would let her date me.

That was about 4 months ago, and things have been hell. I feel like I have to force her to talk to me, most of her texts are just quick replies, she rarely wants to talk online much, I hardly EVER see her. Even on the rare times we are able to both hang with friends things seem awkward.

I've seriously thought about dumping her so many times, at least once every week since then. I don't feel she loves me anymore, and everytime I speak to her about it she admits shes been distant and says she'll try harder, but 3 hours later she's back to her old self. She tells me she does love me and couldn't imagine things without me, but I feel I'm at a dead end with her.

I think she's terrified of her parents to be honest. This whole thing has had me depressed for months. I feel Im pinned down and I find it hard to believe anything will happen come end of the year, but do I wait? Or do I just split?

[Boisdevie]

3 years and she hadn't even introduced you to her parents of even just let them know that she had a boyfriend. You have amazing patience which I find hard to comprehend. But then I find believers in the big sky fairy hard to understand anyway. I'd tell her to **** off.

[cheekxs]

Well, how old are you guys?!!!!!!!!!!

Let me know.

And i dont blame her parents to be protective. cause when you sex her and leave her on the side
she is the one that will have to pick up the pieces.
So thumb up for her mother to take care of her daughter so guys cant come along and do what they want and hit the road.


And maybe you to worry about you and what you want instead of tinking about her also.

In situations like this i think if a dude is a guy with good intentions and the feelings they start with is strong and with good intentions,
or better is , if there is love,(real love, NO bullshit that people call love) and there is difficulties with parents,
i think the dude will step up and go to the parents with the girl and open up some how to them about there intentions and his intentions with there
daughter .

But if you are a adult and the parents still dont accept you, its their choice, maybe they are just difficult people, or maybe they
just see certain things in you that are not good for their kids.
But if both of you are adults its up to you to make your choice for each other orr not.


But what ever age i think in cases like this, you as a dude need to step up to the parents
if your intention are good.
But in your case i dont get the feeling that there is hard inlove feelings or love.
I think you just want the parents to back off so you can enjoy her pussy or what ever you can get.

[Lemsip]

She's 19.

And no that isn't the reason, someone waiting 3 years for sex?
I've passed up on several other girls, if it was sex I wanted I could have had it many times.

I've given this girl my full on attention/time/love/everything since we've been together, and she has in return.
Not out of wanting something back, but because that's what people in love do.

It's definitely not a case of what I can get out of it.

[cheekxs]

Dudeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee, men wait 1000 years for some pussy. and after that they hit off!
And they want to do it with that person they are curious about how exiting sex with that person will be.

And how old are you?

And its up to you to take it or leave it or take it to another level.
But it can also be that when she have all freedom, you dont find her attractive anymore cause you maybe dont see a challenge.

[Lemsip]

We've already had sex, it's not about that lol.

Thanks for the reply though.

[TheCafeTerrace]

She's 19, she needs to tell her parents that they can't contol her anymore. If they won't accept that then she should move out and live her own ****ing life.