Should I break up with him?

[cassie88]

Hello

I've been going out with this guy for about 8 months now, we're both 23 but he's actually my first ever boyfriend. Now he is a great guy; he's funny, alternative, arty and very good looking though he can be really immature but I know he's still very young so that doesn't bother me too much.

What really gets me is his gaming and always putting it first before anything. I would always come back from work absolutely exhausted and he's been gaming all day so I'd have to cook and clean, then he would say that I never want sex and tries to make me feel bad but the truth is I'm knackered!

We're now long distance and when I travelled 6 hours by coach to see him he's later gaming and I just sit there having to watch. I've mentioned this loads of times and he makes an effort to limit it but then he just slips back into gaming 12 hours a day. Whenever I call him on Skype after I've stayed awake for him he's gaming and just ignores me. This happens all the time and just now after I haven't spoken to him for ages he tells me to wait half an hour so he can watch true blood, so he also puts vampire porn before me for god's sake! I pointed this out and he just said yes he had and that was it, so I just signed out, was so angry.

Another issue is the put downs; he likes to jokingly call me a b**ch because he knows it annoys me (I've been called a feminist because I don't like it) and 'tap'/hit me on the cheek which I really get angry about.

But he does have issues; his father died last year and his mother and sister are very superficial and put him down constantly and ostracise me. I helped him finish his degree and I've tried to boost his confidence by getting him out the house etc. (he is a genius but his mother calls him a moron a lot). He's told me he loves me and he would have killed himself if we hadn't met which is awful thing to say and I'll probably never leave him because of that...I think also as he has a bad relationship with his mother and sister he probably doesn't know how to act with women...which I've tried to help him with but I getting so tired...oh dear I'm crying now, feels so good to get this all out...

Btw I do game with him, but because I'm not particularly good he gets annoyed and plays with his friends instead.

I'm just so tired, I've never been in another relationship so I don't know if this is normal or what? I just want some affection and respect... I'm sorry for the long post but this has been bottled in for 8 months...

[Wakeup]

Leave him to his gaming and go out and find someone who likes sunshine and walking with you in it. He is taking you for granted, he doesn't value you much and he is indifferent, rude and abusive. Why do you even love him?

[smackie9]

It took you 8 months to figure this out? Are you that hard up for a guy? Come on girl, this guy is a doofus. It's obvious that he has a problem. Dump his ass and find yourself a guy that actually has a life to share with you.

[Cerby]

True Blood sucks. Dump that Twilight loving, vampire ****ing, werewolf hating, world of warcrafting, bitch of a man.

[Wakeup]

^^ I agree with Cerby but e-slap him for the "True Blood" comment..

[distilled]

Here we go, another Call of Duty addict... How is he a great guy if he treats you like crap? Its not normal. "he would have killed himself if we hadn't met which is awful thing to say and I'll probably never leave him because of that.." when you start thinking like that you're just setting yourself up for more abuse. He has some sh*t to work through and it sounds like gaming is his escape from it. If I traveled 6 hours to see someone and they ignored me like that I would be pissed. I would find someone else who appreciates you.

[smackie9]

True Blood sucks. Dump that Twilight loving, vampire ****ing, werewolf hating, world of warcrafting, bitch of a man.

hey hey hey, the expansion is coming out Sept. 24th....priorities man lol.

[cheekxs]

Wowwwwwwwwwww this is really bad and wrong!

aRE you stupid or retarded? you dont need to have 1000 relationships to have self esteem and see that this
moron is abusing you all the way and manipulate you with edkilling himselfif you leave.

thats is his way to keep you stay and keep taking the abuse.

o men should ever talk like that to you and tap or hit you anywhere!!!

hands of a men are suppose to let you feel safe and caress you.

and by taking abuse and disrespect you will not get right affection and respect.\\

you need to demand him to respect you and you need to respect yourself first.

I think you really need to leave him. Cause he is abusing you and he enjoys it and see it as normal.
He dont even like you. you know him barely and he already treat you like crap,

a guy that is inlove will do especially in the beginning a lot to please the girl.

[IndiReloaded]

"Hey, listen. We had some good times, but I think its time we moved on. After today/tonight, I'd appreciate if you didn't contact me anymore. Thanks for [insert a couple things you sincerely appreciated about him] and see you around. *smile*"

That's all it takes. Clean like a scalpel cut and no explanations or drama. If he asks, you can tell him why, but be sure in your mind about the breakup before its delivery. Good luck.