its complicated, i guess

[AutumnLoves]

I have been best pal with this guy friend since 2,5 year ago.
And we been close for years.

A month ago, he just confess his feeling for me. And since then, we been even closer until a point that we treating each other like couple.
Recently, he missed his chance to ask if I will to accept him as I chase him back to work as he is running late for work.

How can I make him feel much more secure? as it's his first time falling so deep for a girl. And I wanna treasure him.

[searock]

You feel the same way about him? Just tell him and be happy together, don't wait any longer :-).

[AutumnLoves]

Yeah I feel the same. If not I won't have even let him hold my hand.
And he give me all the secure I need. Thus I wanna do the same.

[searock]

So what's the problem?

[AutumnLoves]

He going national services. And after he missed that chance to ask.
He not asking since then.

[searock]

When is he leaving? If he hasn't already left, ask him if you can meet somewhere, and tell him you reciprocate his feelings and you would like to be in a relationship with him. If he has already left: how long will it be before you see each other again? You can contact him (a phone call would be good, even better a video-chat) and tell him the same things.

[bulrush]

1. What is "national services"? Is that the military in your country?
2. Will you be in contact with him?
3. Do you still have time to ask him on a date? (Use the word "date".)

[AutumnLoves]

Yeah military service for 2 years. And we be staying in for 2weeks before he is allow to come out of camp.
He say he will call me and after 2 weeks he wanna meet up.

[AutumnLoves]

He haven leave for camp yet.
We have already talk about it.
But now, since he missed that chance he not asking again.
And he confess that he already starting to treat me like gf.
He even bring me on his family dinner that day.

[searock]

He hasn't left yet. So: ask him out on a date, and tell him that you want to start a relationship with him.

I honestly don't see the problem.

[AutumnLoves]

Now the problem is that we are behaving like couple already but he not asking. It's make me confuse with my status

[searock]

So, ask him if he wants to be your boyfriend.

[Boisdevie]

My and my girlfriend act like a couple. We spend time together, have sex. Gosh, I never asked her if she'd be my girlfriend like some idiot kid in the school playground. I wonder if my GF really is my GF? Do I have to make it like literally official on facebook?

[searock]

Boisdevie, it's important to her, so she should ask, make it official and be happy.