Originally Posted by
Sixpacj
That said, yes I am a male, and yes the OP has rejected the guy which is why he will not reinitiate, and yes she should talk to him.
Sounds right to me. The only issue now is that the OP seems to think the guy is making it hard for her to speak to him. I know how a female might approach this, but again, I'll ask the guys:
Given the situation, how would you, as a male, want a girl to approach you to sort this out. Assuming you are still interested in her. Somehow the "we need to talk about what happened" doesn't seem right. This is a guy whose ego has been bruised and, IMO, he has no guarantee based on this opening that he isn't going to have his nuts run through the crusher once again.
What are you offering him, yoyo (lol, you really are)? Did you make a mistake? Are you sorry for it? Would you like to start again and make it up to him somehow? This all assumes that you like him. Do you?
If you don't know what you want, then do him a favour and leave him alone, as Sixpacj already said.
Second thoughts can generally be amended with judicious action; injudicious actions can seldom be recovered with second thoughts.
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