Now it's my mum

[HeartIsAching]

I feel like I've been sucked into a performance.

That's exactly what I was thinking as I read this.

[MaidenMinx]

That's exactly what I was thinking as I read this.

Thank you. That's all I needed to hear / read.

[smackie9]

She is way too stubborn to commit suicide.

[MaidenMinx]

Yup, you're right Smackie.
I just got a call from her. All I heard was a screamed, "you people can stay the **** away..." which is when I hung up. I sent her a text saying that I am more than happy to speak to her when she wants to be civil about it. I also told her I am sorry my concern for her last night pissed her off.

The plus side of this, I'm getting closer to other members of the family that aren't as stressy.

[smackie9]

Good I hope they can be of help in your healing process.

[MaidenMinx]

update:
Mum ended up calling and apologising. We had a good cry and promised to be more honest with each other and not let things get to that point of tension anymore (we were doing things for each other out of a sense of obligation rather than actually having the time and / or energy to be there for each other). We've been talking for about 2 weeks now and we are practicing being honest and up front. It's not easy but while we're both working on it, it's good. We have also promised to hug more often. My mum was never great at the physical affection thing, which makes me stand offish with her, so we can go months without actually physically connecting at all even though we see each other atleast 3 times a week on average. Now we are making sure we hug good bye. That seems to be helping too.

[HeartIsAching]

That's great... but be aware that there's a very real possibility that she did that only because it got her what she wanted.

[MaidenMinx]

LOL. She actually did it because her "life coach" told her to.

It's been good so far. We've discussed being more assertive with each other and more honest. We have also made sure we hug every time we see each other, which is quite a big deal for us. Mum has never been good at expressing affection physically so we're trying to relearn how to be a functional family. It will take time, and I imagine there will likely be another blow up down the track, but for now we are good. For a start she doesn't expect me to spend all of her time off work with her.

Thanks for your help and advice HIA.

[boster86]

what ?? thinking is this