Am I a rebound?

[Pinkjacob]

Hi, I hope you can help me, I live next door but one to my boyfriend, I am 44 and deaf and he is 25, he was in a relationship for 7 years, married for five (his ex wife still lives next door but one to me) and they have two very young children. They had a break in July and during this time me and him had a little 'thing' once. He told me he wasn't happy in his marriage, and she was moody etc, anyway he left her five weeks ago, and we have been seeing each other ever since, he has told her about us, and me and him have fallen out plenty of times in the last few weeks, he says he doesn't love her anymore and he loves me, but he is in constant contact with her, everyday, even when the kids aren't there. He texts her or calls her all the time, or just goes round to see her. He is living with his dad at the minute, but they were sharing a car for a while too, his belongings are still at her house, he hasn't taken anything, he doesn't want a divorce, they still go places together and he gets really jealous if he thinks she has been seeing someone else, which she hasn't, if she doesn't reply to his messages, he gets really worried and goes straight round (even if he's at work) to check she's ok. Am I the rebound and does he still love and want her back, but is just testing to see if she has changed ( he says she has started to change, but he is unsure of if it will last, so is he giving her more time, but occupying himself with me?) she has lost weight, controls her depression, seems really happy, and they get on really well now. He has told her that I am not a long term thing, but he tells me he loves me. Please help, what do I do?

[1smittenkitten]

Yes. Yes you are a rebound.

[Maple1714]

Yes, your a rebound.... Get away from him. He sounds like a loser.

[Swesus]

Clearly a rebound!

[lylufy]

You are rebound 100% !!!
Leave him now, he is not belong to you !
And he is only lie you that he love you. His expression is so clear.
He love his wife. And he only take advantage of you to check his wife's change.
All his emotion for his wife is strong and show that he love her, not you.
Hope you're wise !

[Pinkjacob]

Hi stupidl10,
Can you explain what you mean about what you said, please
Thank you