I need some advice. I've been dating my high school boyfriend for over a year and we started college last year wanting to continue our relationship. Things were going well until he told me last November that he was thinking about breaking up with me because the distance was a big problem for him. He put some thought into it and in December he ultimately decided to stay with me longer. Then in late February/early March of this year, he said he wanted to break up again. He said he'd either do it at the end of the semester in May or at the end of summer. I wanted to be with him during the summer and so we stayed together until early August. I thought he would change his mind seeing all the fun we had and notice how much he'll miss me. He dumped me on August 5th after saying the week before that he had thought about staying with me because of how he feels about me (loves me, cares about me etc). But ultimately he broke up with me.
Additionally, his main reason was the distance but also that he wanted to be single and wanted someone more like him and someone closer. Yet he said he likes everything about me and wanted to be with me. I did everything I could to help make the distance more bareable--weekly Skypes, phone calls nightly at one point, daily texting throughout the day. I went to visit him at his school first semester, then last semester he visited me when his friend drove to my school. I pointed out the option we now have of taking the bus to see each other monthly, but he says that isn't enough for him. He wanted to see me multiple times a week, not just once a month. And he is busy this semester with activities he does on the weekend on top of his studies so he says we won't get to spend the kind of time together that he wants.
I want for me to be worth it for him to see me when he can, even if it isn't very often. We saw each other weekly during the summer but his plans to study abroad these next few years are another factor in distance---which he says will always be a problem.
I am still heart broken. After one month of no-contact, I initiated a Facebook convo (unblocked him). We've had casual conversation except for me mentioning that I miss him (he said "I miss you too"). The only time I remotely brought up the break up was to ask how single life is treating him so far (he said "idk haven't really though about it"). I feel better talking to him but I had previously vowed (even said to him before we broke up) that I would never talk to him again and we'll never see each other again. He had brought up being friends eventually then because of how close we were (we both were each other's best friends) but I only want him as boyfriend and if I can't have him romantically then it is unfair to settle for friendship.
What can I do for us to have a chance together again? He is my first boyfriend but we were deeply committed and seriously in love and I believe we can still be together.
Should I make him miss me by cutting off contact again? But it will be hard for me to do....and will it even work?
Please help
Thanks